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JustNykkie posted:
Good afternoon! I have a daughter that just turned 13 and she is very overweight. Not only am I concerned due to health issues that might arise as a result, I'm also upset as to what this does to her emotional well being. She is in middle school and is constantly being made fun of. She is a beautiful girl, but she really needs to lose this weight. I have tried to cut out "fatty foods" and we have cut down on her portions, she does do some exercise but nothing seems to be helping! I just don't know what to do anymore and I hate to see my baby hurting! Please help!
jhilton1 responded:
I would take her to her doctor, that way they can get her exact measurements and make a personal plan for her. I have a 9 year old in the same situation, she is obese. we feed her right at home, but her mother doesnt care and feeds them horribly. And she doesnt care and doesnt want to exercise. We will be taking her to the dr very soon.
nursingbug responded:
As a woman who was overweight as she grew up, I feel for both of you!
Have you talked to her doc? Have you seen a dietician with her? If not those would be my first steps. Sometimes cutting back isn't enough on its own to see a difference. You have to get a better picture of what her diet looks like. And also, does she want to change, or do you have to fight her on it? I did not want to hear about it at all at that age!
I was teased a lot as a middle school age too. Believe it or not I think it has made me a better person!
please post back!
Christopher Tiongson, MD replied to nursingbug's response:
A place to start is 5-2-1-0
5 servings of fruits and veggies per day (1/2 cup per serving)
<2 hrs of screen time
>1 hr of moderate or greater exercise
~0 sugary drinks (drink lots of water instead)

Other proven tips include eating breakfast, eating more meals cooked at home, getting enough sleep.

A visit to your doctor would be important to look for complications and to think about medical causes. A nutritionist is also a great idea to customize a nutrition plan.

One other tip, try to incorporate exercise into her favorite activities. If she loves to read, then consider some mini-exercise pedals so she can work out while reading. Or maybe when watching TV have her dance or do jumping jacks during the show.
JustNykkie replied to nursingbug's response:
Thank you so much for your response!
I have spoken to my doctor, but I have not yet seen a dietician with her. My doc just suggested cutting back and more exercise. But sometimes for her with her asthma, exercise isn't always that easy.
She very much wants to change because of being ridiculed at school. That's the part that hurts me the most. Even though she is 13, she will always be my baby girl, and I don't want her feeling badly all of the time. To make matters worse, she has a younger sister that is 11, and is very thin just naturally.
I will look into a dietician and go from there.
Thanks again!
JustNykkie replied to Christopher Tiongson, MD's response:
Thank you Dr. Tiongson!
I will try the 5-2-1-0 plan as well as some of the other tips and see how it goes! ;)

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