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Do you say Thank You?
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
For every act of giving, there must be someone to receive. And so, saying thank you is essential to a happy life together. While people generally do this automatically with material gifts, they often don't do it with compliments or words of appreciation.

How well do you take in compliments and words of appreciation from loved ones?
What effects does this have on your relationship when you take them in; or don't?

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rohvannyn responded:
I thank my spouse every time she cooks dinner, which is every night, and have done so for the last eight years... I try to show appreciation for other things she does too. I have been making a project of trying to take compliments better lately, rather than minimizing or qualifying them when others give them to me. I'm trying to treat myself as I would treat others, because I generally treat others a lot more nicely than I treat myself. Giving, and recieving, often, gracefully and gratefully is important.

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
green_archer_24 responded:
being a cheerful guy, i always show my appreciation to everyone for whatever gifts or compliments i get from them..

there are times when i am very vocal when it comes to expressing my gratitude and there are times that i prefer giving thank you gifts or thank you cards.. sometimes i do both..

it doesn't matter how big or small stuff i get from others, as long as i give thanks with a grateful heart and show them in my own little way that what they did was appreciated, i'm okay with that..
dfromspencer responded:
I do give thanks, even for the little things. Compliments i never have taken very well, but giving them is fine. Lately, i have improved on taking them. Now i accept them, and give thanks in return. I try to thank people, even if its only with a smile.

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD replied to dfromspencer's response:
Good work, Dennis! I hope that you are feeling a greater sense of well-being and happiness along with the efforts you are putting into improving yourself, your relationships, and you life.

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