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    Escape from Relationship Problems to a Better Future
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    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
    Wendell Berry (a noted and insightful author) has said, "The past is our definition. We may strive, with good reason, to escape it, or to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it."


    This statement applies (among other things) to all close relationships, which will have some kind of struggle or conflict at times. While it's understandable to want to avoid or run away from this, doing so prolongs (and probably exacerbates) the problem or prematurely ends the relationship. In what ways have you tried in your relationships to escape the negative by doing something positive or "adding something better to it"?

    If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .






    Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.
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