Skip to content


    Exciting News for WebMD Members!

    We've been busy behind the scenes building new message boards for you. You'll have new and easier ways to find messages, connect with others, and share your stories.

    And, this will all be available on your smartphone or other mobile device!

    What Do You Need to Do?

    The message board you're used to will be closing in the coming weeks. While many of your boards will be making the move to our new home, your posts will not. Want to keep a discussion going? Save posts you want to continue (this includes your member profile story), so that you can re-post them in the new message boards.

    Keep an eye here and on your email inbox, we'll be back in touch soon to give you all the information you need!

    Yours in health,
    WebMD Message Boards Management

    Attention: The information provided in this forum is intended for educational purposes only, and is not a substitute for individual professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
    Includes Expert Content
    Why he won't
    FreshnBoo posted:
    My husband of 20 years an I are having some problems and now we have gone from a healthy daily sex life to once a week. This is not enough for me so I masterbate. When doing this he will listen and watch and then climb on top of me to get me off, but does not want to ejaculate himself. He will stop and when I ask him if I can do it for him he says no and when I ask him why he says he doesn't want to. This is hurting me so bad and I do not understand it. Any answers would be helpful
    dfromspencer responded:
    My first guess is, he's suffering from loss of feeling in his penis? Possibly anorgasmia? Maybe a little low-T? Your guess would be as good as mine. May i suggest you take him to see his Doctor? His Dr. could run the nessasary blood tests. Find out for sure whats wrong down there?

    Once a man hits 40/45 he starts to lose a little gumption, if you can understand that? But, to rule out something that may be health threatening, could ease your, and his mind conciderably!!! Go see that Doctor!!!

    Good luck!

    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD responded:
    I get from what you write that you are having problems separate from the sexual issues. Many people have issues in their sex life that stems from other relationship problems. And, they often find that when they work through those problems, the sexual issues resolve, too.

    You might find it helpful to read one of my blogs, How to Improve Your Marriage and Communicate .

    Perhaps if you share more about the other issues here, some people might have some supportive and helpful feedback.

    Featuring Experts

    Dr. Becker-Phelps is a well-respected psychologist, who is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotio...More

    Helpful Tips

    Same thing here
    My boyfriend use to hold me as we slept, now it is i have to hold him or he wants to hold hands. The intamcy is not like it use to be and ... More
    Was this Helpful?
    1 of 3 found this helpful

    Related Drug Reviews

    • Drug Name User Reviews

    Report Problems With Your Medications to the FDA

    FDAYou are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit the FDA MedWatch website or call 1-800-FDA-1088.