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    Men and Women are Both Earthlings
    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
    It's been a couple of decades since John Gray published the bestselling book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. And, wow, did it ever become popular! People continue to refer to the popular notion that men and women are different by referring to them being from different planets. But a recent study out of the University of Rochester is bringing all the hype down to earth. It has found that men and women are not as different as we think (though, thankfully, there are some fundamental differences that we can see, feel, and appreciate!).

    The study found that the presence of particular psychological traits, personality types, and attitudes is so similar that they usually cannot meaningfully differentiate the sexes. For instance, men and women are not significantly different from each other in their fear of success or their ability to empathize.

    What do you think about these findings? Do they fit with your experiences?

    Have you ever been surprised by people who did not fit stereotypes? Have your biases (and assumptions about a partner) ever gotten in the way of having a closer relationship?

    If you would like to read more about this in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.

    Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.

    rohvannyn responded:
    Through my life I've learned that gender differences are as much a result of early training than anything else. My dad is a fairly nurturing person and acted more a mother to me than my mother did. She was the breadwinner and the one who worked outside the home. I have a friend who is in gender transition and so the subject of gender roles is one that comes up a lot. The idea that men and women are so different in all ways can be really damaging to people and counter-productive in relationships, in my opinion. Far better to understand the differences and similarities between each particular pair of people.

    'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
    dfromspencer responded:
    The only differences between the sexes that I ever noticed, was the obvious ones. Women can like football as much as a man. Or a man may hate football as much as a woman. The only real differences are in how one was raised, like Roh said!


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