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    Power struggles
    Mamihlapinatapai posted:
    I know that in the perfect marriage, where so many important factors are involved, there would be no power struggles of any kind. However, I think in reality this is rarely the case.
    The most elementary and valuable statement in science--the beginning of wisdom--is 'I do not know.'

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    dfromspencer responded:
    I didn't take the poll, but would like to comment.

    When I was married, we didn't have anyone dominate over the other, no, ours was a partnership. We asked each other what they thought about anything we may have wanted. It was a fifty/fifty proposition. No one bought anything major, without talking it over first, and that worked very well.

    There should be no dominance in any relationship!!!
    Rather, it should be a partnership!!!

    fcl replied to dfromspencer's response:
    I agree. We have a partnership too and it's been this way for over 30 years now. There is no notion of domination here. I couldn't be happy in a relationship where one felt the need to dominate the other.
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    rohvannyn responded:
    I think my spouse actually doesn't really want any power struggles but my head sometimes reads into things she does. Or she thinks I am trying to take power over her when I'm not. We both have issues from the past. I continue to work toward mutuality.

    'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
    An_249666 replied to rohvannyn's response:
    thought you're a girl?
    i just noticed
    rohvannyn replied to An_249666's response:
    To clarify things, I am female but if someone calls me by the masculine pronoun I don't really get offended. Respect is respect, right? My spouse is also female.

    'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
    dfromspencer replied to rohvannyn's response:
    No worries, Roh, you are still my friend, and always will be!!!

    I'm sorry you are having these probs. A relationship worth having, is one worth struggling with, right???


    rohvannyn replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Thanks for that, Dennis, and good luck on your date!

    'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ

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