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i think i hate my life, my wife and mizerabal
boredwithlife13 posted:
have to have someone to talk to. My wife of 20 something years is suck a bore. she never wants to have sex, never wants to do different things, never tries to do anything she want even talk to me. she hardly ever even gives me a glance. i can be naked right in front of her and she dont notice. she dont cook, wonts me to clean and cook or just fend for my slef. i ask her anything and she shake her shoulder and says whatever, i think i could die and she wouldnt notice excoet when her cloths need washing, she never smiles, only wants sex in bed boring! ive talked, yes i have talked to her, i try to tell her what i need. i am to the point that i feel lik iam diying a slow death- i think i hate her
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD responded:
It's possible that she feels disconnected from you, just as you feel disconnected from her. Sometimes the way to open people up is to ask about them. So, you might find it helpful to ask her questions, such as: how she is feeling, what makes her happy, what she likes about your relationship, what she would like to change in your relationship, and what you can do to make her happy.

If she continues to seem 'checked out' in all aspects of life, she might be suffering from depression. In this case, you might want to share your concern for her and suggest that she see a therapist to assess her for depression and get her treatment - this might make you both happier in the end.

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