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Learning Your Parent is Only Human
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
Children are dependent on their all powerful caregivers for their survival. So, when parents fail in some important way, children often continue to see them in as positive a light as they can. To accomplish this, children often see themselves as flawed. If only they were smarter, more capable, or better in some way, then their parent would love them.

In what ways can you relate to this? What is your relationship with your parents like? If you have an adult relationship with them, what, if anything, have you had to work on in order to develop it? If you are caught in old, childhood patterns with them, what keeps you caught in this?

If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .

Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.

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