Self-pity can be paralyzing. A big reason for this is that you feel alone, different from everyone else in the world.
When you feel this way, a great antidote is to remind yourself that others have similar experiences. This can help you to feel like you belong to a greater humanity. It can help you feel whole and acceptable — even with your struggles.
If you have gotten mired down in self-pity, what exactly gets you stuck? And, how have you pulled yourself out of it?
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I read this blog, then came over here to see if this was in response to my other post? Well, i'm not so sure, now? I did think on this topic myself, when I found my situation getting so frustrating. But the truth is, I am totally frustrated, yes, but mired in self pity, no. I'm not feeling down in the dumps, or anything like that, I am just as happy as I was three years ago, four? I did recently, go through my fathers death, but even that didn't ruin my spirits. I guess I am just about as happy as a man that has very few prospects in life, can be! I mean, I am crippled with chronic pain, and the meds I take, almost completely restrict the type of jobs I can do, if any?! But, I refuse to let the small stuff get me down!!!
I think I could go on, but that will have to be another post! All I can say on the subject of self pity is; listen to what Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps has to say, and you are guaranteed to feel better in moments!!!
Thank you for everything, Dr. Leslie!!! Take care!!!
Oh, I do find it paying off! In big ways! I quit smoking, you know, and I started exercising and getting out more. By getting out more, I am meeting more people! And by meeting more people, I am having more fun! You were so right!
Plus, and this is a big plus, at least to me, I hardly ever use self talk when I put myself in front of a possible friendship, or maybe even beyond?! By following many different things you have tought me, life itself, has become a lot more enjoyable!!!
I still get frustrated when something doesn't turn out the way I had hoped it would, but hey, life still goes on, and I plan to go on with it!!! My shyness is just about a thing of the past. My trepidation of entering into new relationships, has eased tremendously!!! Now, when I am invited into a new love interest's house, I step boldly into a new experience!
When I stop, and think about all the ways my life has changed these last few months, I can't help but thank you, over, and over!!! This is all YOUR doing Doctor Becker-Phelps!!! How is a man supposed to thank the one who has helped him more than anyone else??? Just saying thanks, never seems to be enough?! I don't know how to thank you? I'm so sorry!!!
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