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Improve Your Relationship with Mindfulness
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
Mindfulness — focusing without judgment on the current moment — is a hot topic these days; and for good reason. Among its many benefits, you can use mindfulness to improve your relationships by helping you to be:

Present to enjoy and appreciate your friends and loved ones
A Better listener
A better communicator
More empathic

Have you tried being totally present, or mindful, when you are with others? What differences have you seen in your relationships or in particular interactions when you are mindful, as compared with when you are less fully 'there'?

If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .

Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional
dfromspencer responded:
Hi Dr. Leslie,

This is soooo cool! I read this blog the other day, and Tuesday morning I had an appt. with a psychologist, and he gave me the same advice! He told me to stop once and a while, and ask myself "Where am I now"? In other words, to be mindful of where I am at, and of other things around me, or other people, even?!

Coincidence, or conspiracy? Just who all do you know, Dr. Leslie??? Hhmmm, sure makes one wonder?! LOL!!!

Keep these awesome blogs coming, Dr. Leslie!!!
Thanks so much!!!

rohvannyn replied to dfromspencer's response:
I'll read this article when I get a chance, it came up in our post-fight discussion yesterday. We're still at a good enough point that we can talk about things after we have a disagreement so that's good. My main downfall lately is being too overcome by "affect," and I think the cure for that is being mindful. But I so often forget! So I guess the cure is to keep practicing.

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
dfromspencer replied to rohvannyn's response:
Hi Roh, I am so glad you are going to read these blogs from Dr. Leslie!!! They are a fantastic way to look at yourself in a different way! A way to focus on those things that are important to us, and to share parts of us with others. So many good things to read!!!

They will sure make you think, and want to change your behaviors to the good! Good reading, Roh!!!


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