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How to Give the Perfect Valentine's Day Gift
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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD posted:
By choosing to think about Valentine's Day as a day to honor your love (rather than as a challenge for you to prove your love), it can be a day that can brings you great joy. It is your chance to share your emotions, offering your partner the warmth of being loved as well as adding to your own good feelings by doing this.


So, based on your love, what do you plan to do to honor your partner? Need help? You might want to share what you love about your partner and see if the community can help you find the perfect gift.




If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .


Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.


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rohvannyn responded:
A great way to look at it! I personally see holidays as an excuse to show extra appreciation to the people I care about, kind of a reminder to refocus on what's important. Even though I am involved with someone who doesn't celebrate most holidays, I try to come up with fun stuff to do around that time anyway, just not directly connected with the holiday, per se. I have a lot of fun coming up with special presents that reflect their own style! Like... a stuffed penguin, or a card with something I know they love, or something like that. On Valentine's day, a couple years ago, I got her a half terabyte external drive for her computer. Come to think of it, she accepted that, so maybe I'll fold her an origami heart and give it to her with a rose this year... ha ha.
Roh

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
 
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dfromspencer responded:
Lets see, what do I love about my partner??? Well, I love the fact that she lets me watch whatever I like? She never talks back, come to think on it, she never talks at all? She is always willing to lend a hand!


Wait a minute!!! I don't have a significant other right now! I was thinking of good ole Rosie!!! You know, Rosie Palm, and her five willing sisters? LOL!!!


Ok, so I jest! I have to keep a positive, if slightly skewd attitude, right? Just won't do to be depressed on this day! Its Valentine's Day!!! That is also a good day to love yourself, and your singleness!!! The alternative is just too awful to contemplate!!! It is what makes for a good depression! NO!!! This is a day to celebrate LOVE!!!


HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY, EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I wish you all a never ending LOVE!!!


Dennis
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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dfromspencer replied to rohvannyn's response:
Hi Roh,


Hey, as long as that half terabyte hard drive had a red rose, a card, and a box of chocolate's on top, I would love it, too!!! LOL!!!


That, was a very thoughtful gift, you know? Something that will last a good long while, and not be thrown in the trash the next day!!! Good thinking there, Roh!!! Your spouse should appreciate you?!!!


Happy V-Day, you two!!!


D.
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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rohvannyn replied to dfromspencer's response:
Yeah, she does appreciate me. She isn't the breadwinner so she tends to make things. Like one time she did the fully 3-d rendered picture of my favorite starship. And this time, the crane folded entirely by her non dominant hand. Gifts of time and thought. Or her cooking me dinner every night. I appreciate that about her too.
Roh

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
 
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bigred53 replied to dfromspencer's response:
Well Dennis it looks like we're in the same boat but on different sides of the country. You have good old Rosie and I have Bob.

I have discovered that laughter even at our own expense helps me keep a positive outlook.

I love myself every night...lol!! Well, almost every night.

Michelle
 
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dfromspencer replied to rohvannyn's response:
Hi Roh, YOU are sooooo LUCKY!!!!!!!!!






And I am soooooooo JEALOUS!!!


LOL!!!


D.
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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dfromspencer replied to bigred53's response:
Now isn't that the truth??? And yes, I do laugh at myself, a lot! Just about every time I move across my uneven floor, and I lose my balance so easily, it is comical!!!


Well, at least we both have someone, right? LOL!!!


And yes, I may love myself every night, but the equipment doesn't work every night! Those pills are very expensive, so I use them sparingly! Oh sure, there are times they are not needed, but it doesn't always make it too the end?! I have a problem with speed, also! All the Oxycontin, and Oxycodone, doesn't help matters, you know??? I think a woman might be pleased with the time, but I can't when I don't use a pill? Alas, and woe is me! The plumbing just isn't what it once was?! Thank all the powers that be, and the discoverer of Levitra!!! LOL!!!


Michelle, you will find your man! Just get out there and look! That is what I am doing! I am sick and tired of being alone! I desire a long term relationship! And I am going to find it!!!You will, also!!!


Love yourself for all you are worth!!!


D.
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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bigred53 replied to dfromspencer's response:
Dennis, there are other avenues to pleasure than can be found in an erection. I know this from personal experience. Men can climax and ejaculate without an erection. Intercourse (a penis in a vagina) is not necessary for either party to enjoy themselves and climax during lovemaking. I'm not saying that I don't love penetrative sex but I, as do most women, need other kinds of stimulation, namely clitoral. I also like to prolong the pleasure - mine own as well as a partner's (when I have one).

I totally enjoy flirting and when I find someone who also likes to flirt I go for it. IMO flirting is good for us - it can get the juices flowing and stroke the ego. So Dennis, let's keep flirting and having fun!

You are so right, drugs and age and other things can sure mess with our responses. As a friend of mine said - they mess with your cha-cha.

Have a wonderful day!!

Michelle
 
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dfromspencer replied to bigred53's response:
Hi again, Michelle,


You are right, in a way?! We can, and I have had ejaculations without an erection! But, in my condition, its best if I wait and take a Levitra, O.M.G. the powerful ejack I get with them, about drives me crazy?! One time, I was so horny, I climaxed twice, and that, about drove me insane?! It was so pleasurable!!! Its just like Crack!!! Since then, I have been chasing that double explosion, and coming close, but no cigars yet?! I would tell you the story, but this is not the place for that?! That was the second most powerful erection I ever had, and both times, I was alone? Hmmm????? Huh??? Nawwwww!!! I have to find me a woman, and soon!!!


Well, I don't know if its Cha? I would have thought it was Chi? You know, your center, or center of power? I.D.K.???


Well, that's all for now, see ya later!


HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!


D.
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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dem02 replied to dfromspencer's response:
Happy Valentine's Day
 
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dfromspencer replied to dem02's response:
Hi Dem,


I sure hope you had a wonderful V.-Day, and have a wonderful weekend!!!


Keep in touch, Dem, please?! I miss talking to you!!!


Dennis
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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dem02 replied to dfromspencer's response:
wish i could bit u an so tried, i sixk of being
 
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dfromspencer replied to dem02's response:
Now Dem, you don't mean that!!! You are only tired because you let some idiots get to you?! Don't let them do that to you! You are your own person, and they do NOT own you!!!


You come talk to me anytime, you hear me??? I will always be here to talk to you!!! I wasn't yesterday, I had to go help my brother, but I will make an effort to be here for you, I promise!!! If I'm not here, someone surly will be here for you, we all like you, so come on down!!!


Its late, and I have had a long weekend already! Good night, Dem, sweet dreams!!!
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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dem03 replied to dfromspencer's response:
you ate so swwet and kind. thank you


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