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this what i have taught myself.
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dem16 posted:
learned in 28 years that talking about things is a very big,plus to feeling better. making peace with my sexual part of my past by confronting by step dad.,it does not change what happend, but has helped me put my attpts in check for27 years.i do not put up with the verbal abuse that my family dishes out,but cause ihave cut them out them,out of my life at one time. but,that does not help what i am dealing
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dem16 responded:
there is another part to this.,they are the things i have taught myself,so you,see it is not,like i am,not trying. but has not helpeb the stuff in my head
 
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dfromspencer replied to dem16's response:
Oh Debbie, I am so sorry!!! I thought it was your uncle? Your step father did what? Did he take advantage of you? Oh you poor girl!!! I suppose that is why you feel the way you do? And, I suppose your family thought you was lying, am I right? Making things up? Trying to get him in trouble? No one ever thought it might be true, so they tell you over and over that it is all in your head, you made it up?! Am I close???


Wow, you have had a very rough life, I'm sorry! At least you are here, talking about it, that is a good thing!!! Get it out of your head, then it will get out of your soul! Keep this up, and I hope, I really hope, you can get your life back together?!


We are going to help you, Deb, I promise you, we will find a way to get this out of your soul!!! I hope Dr. Leslie can help you get it out of your head?! Just know this, we are here for you, anytime you need us, ok???


I want you to have an excellent night, and sweet dreams tonight, ok?! See you tomorrow, ok?!


D.
LIVE LONG, LOVE WELL!!!
 
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rohvannyn responded:
First of all, I want to offer my humble and respectful congratulations for all you have done. You have survived a lot. From what you have said, you have tried really hard and continue to work hard to overcome this. I honor that. I just wanted to let you know that if I offer suggestions it's in the hope that maybe I can think of something that you could try that might be different than what you have done before.

It's not because don't think you are trying that I try to offer help. If you hadn't tried, I wouldn't care and I'd ignore you. It's because I see you have tried, I hear what you say and respect what you have been through, and because I respect that you haven't given up.
Roh

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
 
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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD responded:
When people feel really upset, it can be easy to also get sucked into feeling that nothing has helped and no one cares. And when this happens, people are often helped by reminding themselves of the things they have done that have helped them - even if just a little bit - and by also thinking about the people who have shown them some caring. Maybe this can help you?
 
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dem16 replied to rohvannyn's response:
thanks roh, i really grateful to you and the others. i am sorry for the slow response. the respect is mutal
 
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rohvannyn replied to dem16's response:
You are welcome, Deb! By the way, what do you prefer to be called? I want to get it right.
Roh

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ
 
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dem16 replied to rohvannyn's response:
anythimg,just dont dont call me deborah. i tell people you will be my ene?y i f you do
 
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rohvannyn replied to dem16's response:
No worries about me doing that! I try to just call people what they want me to call them. Thanks, Deb!
Roh

'Your focus determines your reality.' --QGJ


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