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He's a married man who has been cheating with you on his wife. When men say they aren't having sex with their wives, they're very often lying, but that is completely immaterial. Your first mistake was getting involved with him at all, and your second mistake was to start having sex with him once you thought you were over him, and despite the fact that you were once again contributing to his betrayal of his wife.
Besides being slimy, he is apparently also violent. I hope you filed a police report. If he would break your car window and call you all those names, who knows what else he might have been capable of doing to you?
Nothing about him sounds worthy of your love.
You didn't betray anyone. The only betrayal here is what he did to his wife. If you hurt him, so what?
Kick him to the curb, don't ever talk to him again, and take this all as a lesson. You can't ever hope to have any kind of fulfilling relationship with him or any other married man. If all you want is sex, get a vibrator and try to find a single man.
In the meantime, find ways to keep busy with friends. If you can keep this guy out of your life, I'd say you've dodged a big bullet.
I don't know this man but I know his type. You are better than this. You are too good for someone to do this to. What happened presents are great opportunity for you to extricate yourself from this mess. He's married. He has such respect for you that he broke your car window. IMO, you need a stronger sense of self-esteem to see more clearly that this man and this relationship are poisoning your life. There will be pain in the short-term, but you will gain self-esteem once you make the decision, and move forward. Good luck.
You are worried that YOU hurt HIM? He turned up at your place, sabotaged your evening and gave a rare display of violence. That alone, in my book, would be enough to turn me off of him forever. I really hope you filed a complaint with the police for your car. If not, you're leaving yourself open to a repeat performance next time he wants to cause a fuss.
You didn't hurt HIM you hurt his pride. He wants to be the big guy who can take care of two women at the same time. He cannot face the idea of being ditched by either of them - it would belittle his opinion of himself.
You don't still love him but you won't get over him until you cut contact with him. Drop him and start building a healthy life. It doesn't matter whether he believes you intended to hurt him or not - don't let him cling to you just because you're too scared to end it,
Be blunt with him. He has his life with his wife and family. It's time you set about building yours. Tell him that it's over and that you do not want him calling you. Do this in a fairly public place (like a restaurant) just in case he gets violent.
Heck, does he think you're going to sit alone every day just waiting for him to come by and ... ummm ... do you? Can't he understand that that is NOT a life.
I do wish you well with this and with finding happiness again.
Maybe you should be more concerned with yourself, have self respect and higher standards for yourself. I think you haven't really felt true love in your life, but what he's giving you is the closest to what you think it should feel like. There is more to life and when you figure out that you deserve more and require more is when you'll find a real man.
Stop this very one-sided relationship and learn some self respect..its free but you gotta dig deep to locate it..
Good luck.
I know by what you wrote you took what I wrote completely wrong. But I guess good thing you are here to clarify things.
I believe ImMe26 was directing her post to the OP's not yours. She just posted under yours instead of the top post. Sounds to me she was agreeing with you.
Ok that makes sense too
Gotta laugh at myself here!!
I hope you're right...
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