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i'm just so sad.. lost feelings for husband, do they ever return?
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happimomi posted:
have lost some feelings for my husband. it just hit me about 7 months ago, and its gotten worse. since then, i keep noticing more and more things that drive me crazy to the point of being desperate to run out the door and never look back. deep down i do care about him but its more of a brotherly love, not spouse. i dont care to have sex with him anymore. i love being married but ive just grown out of love with him. we do not have money for counseling. i have told him how i feel, and he hates it, and he tries little things that i used to would have liked, but its hard to like them when i asked him for many many years to do them,, now its feeling like too little: too late! anyone else ever been there? yes we do have kids.
2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:i'm just so sad.. lost feelings for husband, do they ever return?<i>have lost some feelings for my husband. it just hit me about 7 months ago, and its gotten worse. since then, i keep noticing more and more things that drive me crazy to the point of being desperate to run out the door and never look back. deep down i do care about him but its more of a brotherly love, not spouse. i dont care to have sex with him anymore. i love being married but ive just grown out of love with him. we do not have money for counseling. i have told him how i feel, and he hates it, and he tries little things that i used to would have liked, but its hard to like them when i asked him for many many years to do them,, now its feeling like too little: too late! anyone else ever been there? yes we do have kids.</i>
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tmlmtlrl responded:
Does this sound like you? http://forums.webmd.com/3/relationships-and-coping-community/forum/668

Maybe you two can talk to each other..

You seem very lost. Are you looking for permission to leave your husband? Have you looked into counseling with a church perhaps? What does your best friend/sister/mother/confidant say about your situation?
Report This| Share this:i'm just so sad.. lost feelings for husband, do they ever return?Does this sound like you? <a href="http://forums.webmd.com/3/relationships-and-coping-community/forum/668">http://forums.webmd.com/3/relationships-and-coping-community/forum/668</a> <br /><br />Maybe you two can talk to each other..<br /><br />You seem very lost. Are you looking for permission to leave your husband? Have you looked into counseling with a church perhaps? What does your best friend/sister/mother/confidant say about your situation?
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happimomi replied to tmlmtlrl's response:
yes, it does sound a lot like my situation. I feel desperate.. and i guess confused, and it does hurt my feelings, i'm dissappointed also in myself: i wish i didnt feel this way, but I do. I wish i could go back to happy times, wheni think i was in the dark, and just not aware of how i was feeling. Theres always been little things that drove me crazy about him, but they all came to light all of a sudden, and it was like a volcano and it errupted, i told him about it, and its been hard since then. Hard to talk about with him, and because it upsets him, lately, ive just shut up about it, but my feelings are just NOT there. Ive just never been in such a situation, and i do feel as if I'm out of love for him, and i do feel lost,and hurt and confussed. i wonder if i would be happier without him? i'm just confused, will time help this. As for friends, i have talked to my mother, which is also a good friend, she says she's always seen things about him that raised her flag. The things that hurt me about him: she says she doesn't see where they will ever get better. Sad, but i LOVE being married. I like everything about it, dont do bars, singles, etc.. never was that type. I just hate the empty heart feelings, and the not happy when he comes home feeling, and the fact that his touch makes me sick.. anyone been there?
Report This| Share this:i'm just so sad.. lost feelings for husband, do they ever return?yes, it does sound a lot like my situation. I feel desperate.. and i guess confused, and it does hurt my feelings, i'm dissappointed also in myself: i wish i didnt feel this way, but I do. I wish i could go back to happy times, wheni think i was in the dark, and just not aware of how i was feeling. Theres always been little things that drove me crazy about him, but they all came to light all of a sudden, and it was like a volcano and it errupted, i told him about it, and its been hard since then. Hard to talk about with him, and because it upsets him, lately, ive just shut up about it, but my feelings are just NOT there. Ive just never been in such a situation, and i do feel as if I'm out of love for him, and i do feel lost,and hurt and confussed. i wonder if i would be happier without him? i'm just confused, will time help this. As for friends, i have talked to my mother, which is also a good friend, she says she's always seen things about him that raised her flag. The things that hurt me about him: she says she doesn't see where they will ever get better. Sad, but i LOVE being married. I like everything about it, dont do bars, singles, etc.. never was that type. I just hate the empty heart feelings, and the not happy when he comes home feeling, and the fact that his touch makes me sick.. anyone been there?
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