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twinsdad1121 posted:

11 months ago my wife had a hysterectomy, leaving her one ovary. Since she doctor told her she could resume sexual activity 8 weeks after the surgery, she still refuses to have intercourse with me. She will ask me to masturbate her to climax or go down on her, and she said all that feels great still, but she still refuses to do anything sexually to me. What should a man do when his wife refuses to have sex with him? She's 45 years old; I'm 47, married for 16 years, with two kids. I'm getting very frustrated here. It's been over a year since we last had intercourse and I am missing the intimacy very much. I thought I was being very patient, but now I am second guessing myself
Thanks

1 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Any advice?11 months ago my wife had a hysterectomy, leaving her one ovary. Since she doctor told her she could resume sexual activity 8 weeks after the surgery, she still refuses to have intercourse with me. She will ask me to masturbate her to climax or go down on her, and she said all that feels great still, but she still refuses to do anything sexually to me. What should a man do when his wife refuses to have sex with him? She's 45 years old; I'm 47, married for 16 years, with two kids. I'm getting very frustrated here. It's been over a year since we last had intercourse and I am missing the intimacy very much. I thought I was being very patient, but now I am second guessing myself<br />Thanks

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD responded:

Frustrating, I'm sure. What is her reasoning? (If you don't know, then this is a conversation you very much need to have.) Have you talked with her about how this is affecting you? Have you asked her to work with you to find a solution to this problem?

Report This| Share this:Any advice?Frustrating, I'm sure. What is her reasoning? (If you don't know, then this is a conversation you very much need to have.) Have you talked with her about how this is affecting you? Have you asked her to work with you to find a solution to this problem?

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