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clearyourmind2day posted:
I have a Male friend whom I was once pursuing a relationship with as we got to know each other we realized we would be much better as friends . We have known each other for almost 2 years and our conversation never involves anything inappropriate because we have decided to keep it as a friendship and nothing more. I am starting a new business and offered this friend a job how ever my boyfriend of 1 year is not happy with this decision ........ my boyfriend is not stable and has left the relationship 3 times within the year we have been together. The decision to hire my male friend was made when the boyfriend was gone away from the relationship for 3 weeks. During the 3 weeks there was no communication between us , now that we are back together he feels that I should not hire the friend because of our past situation. Boyfriend says NO but I say YES because the job was offered and taken while you were away so plans won't change now that he is back. If anyone has any comments or suggestions they would be greatly appreciated.
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3point14 responded:
If your relationship with your friend is completely appropriate and platonic, what does it matter whether or not you were talking to your boyfriend? If you're just friends, it shouldn't matter what your relationship status is.

What are the contributing factors to your boyfriends' instability?Why do you guys keep breaking up? Is your boyfriend insecure in general? Why does he have a problem with this specific friend?

I sure as heck wouldn't want my BF insisting upon hiring some girl he dated and was "friends" with. If I was uncomfortable about any girl who my BF was friends with and he made her the priority by taking her side in a fight and not respecting my concerns, I'd leave him immediately.
 
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fcl responded:
Your bf has absolutely no say in your business decisions unless he is your business partner too. You are free to hire whoever you consider to be the right person for the job.

This is none of my business but ... do you see this relationship lasting? A guy who walks out three times in a year is hardly stable. Starting a new business is stressful enough without a bf throwing a hissy fit about who you hire ...
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