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Deal Breaker? Do I go?
Anon_166687 posted:
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We are both in our 30s. From the time I met him, I was very upfront that I would never wed nor have children. It isn't a maybe, it's a definite. He told me then that at one time he thought he would have marriage and a family, but learned he wanted to live his own life (he's a musician on the road now) and it wouldn't be fair to a child. I've always had this gut feeling that he wasn't positive he didn't want a family, and just recently that was confirmed for me. He told me in the middle of an argument that when we met he wanted kids and marriage but his mind changed after being with me. His mother just confided to me that he has in the past mentioned wanting kids. I'm wondering if it's time for me to go as I feel guilty that he is giving up something he truly wants for me. That's unfair, and in the long run, he'd resent me when he didn't have that family he realized to late he wanted. He's still away for a month, so I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for how I handle this/talk to him when he's back/if it's over/etc.

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