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    What I've learned - a guys perspective.
    mikeydell posted:
    Don't look for someone because you need to feel complete; that goes for both sexes. Make sure each of you is truly over your exes - at least 1 year apart for every 5 married. Know each other very well before even thinking about sex. Expect the unexpected. Guys, compliment your lady when you first see her each day. Don't over compliment, it's sounds phony after a while. Be spontaneous. Pay attention to everything! Communicate often and communicate well. Don't say 'I love you' if you don't mean it! Expect your heart to be broken, and if it's really meant to be then it will.
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    w8n4him responded:
    Well put mike! I agree! And from a female's perspective,,,Don't look for a guy to take care of you. Learn to take care of yourself first. As the saying goes, learn to need them because you love them,,, don't love them because you need them. Not only get to know them well before moving to the next level, but don't go in for sex,,,,go for 'making love', there's a difference. Other than that, what mikey said!

    mikeydell replied to w8n4him's response:
    Thanks Vicki, I'm glad I got most of it correct. And you hit the nail right on the head as well!

    Now if someone would only read and offer a comment on my piece in the DISCUSSION area I would really appreciate it. I am trying to gain some insight as to what really happened and why. It seems so very surreal!

    dfromspencer replied to w8n4him's response:
    Hiya, Pal

    New name, eh?
    mikeydell responded:
    Here's a few more: If she tells you that she can't say I LOVE YOU, believe it and MOVE ON...she never will!
    If it didn't work out the first time, it WILL NEVER work out period! MOVE ON!
    If she says she doesn't know where the relationship is going, it isn't going ANYWHERE...MOVE ON!
    If she says YOU'RE AN ANGEL or a GOOD GUY...MOVE ON!
    If she talks about the guy from the church play and says he told her to join the yacht club...MOVE ON!
    dfromspencer replied to mikeydell's response:
    Hi Mikey,

    All good points to use!

    mikeydell replied to mikeydell's response:
    If during the first date she confesses that she tried to commit suicide as a child TWICE...ASK FOR THE BILL, PAY IT AND LEAVE!

    If she says she's on medication for the above since childhood...SEE ABOVE in BOLD!

    If she says her mom was an alcoholic and abused her mentally and verbally...SEE ABOVE in BOLD!

    If she says her ex is a narcissist and is addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling or sex...SEE ABOVE in BOLD!

    If she admits that she'd been diagnosed as being codependent...SEE ABOVE in BOLD!

    If she admits to attending ALANON meetings...SEE ABOVE in BOLD!

    If you still want this woman in your life then know that you will never have her heart no matter what you do, or how hard you try!

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