Hang on; don't despair! Rheumatologists don't want to use pain meds for long term use for fear of creating addictions. But there are things they--and you--can do. My doctor has from time to time prescribed prednisone to relieve pain. I take 5 mg/ day in the morning and it works wonders! I can only take it for 10-14 days, but that sometimes quiets the inflammation and the pain for a while. He tries other meds, too, like Lyrica, Solumedrol as an infusion and Cymbalta--all of which can be used for pain management. They won't necessarily work as there is no silver bullet of a perfect pain reliever, but they are something to try.
What you can do: Take 2700mg/day or more of Omega-3 oil to counteract the Omega-6 oil we all consume everyday. Omega-6 is an inflammitant and will make you hurt. I suggest you do some internet research on these 2 oils to understand them both and what they do to--or for--you. Give the Omega-3 up to 6 weeks to work; it works slowly, but will give you relief eventually. Don't just take 2700mg of fish oil; it has to be Omega-3. Other little, simple things I do that help: hold my hands under warm running water in the morning; take a warm shower in the morning; use a heating pad on joints that are really hurting; stretch before getting out of bed every morning; wear good shoes with thick soles and good arch supports; don't get too cold or too hot; drink a lot of water. Take a rest or a nap during the day as you can. My rheumatologist also told me to avoid eating beef and refined sugar. I researched the sugar and found that refined sugar is sugar that doesn't occur naturally--all sugar except that found naturally in food, like in fruit, and honey, maple syrup, agave syrup. So I avoid sugar, especially high fructose corn syrup, and sweeten things with honey, agave nectar or stevia/ stevia blends. (Stevia comes from a plant and has no side effects.)
I am 57, female and was diagnosed 2 years ago, although I believe I've had this for 25 years. I have the same pain issues; some days are REALLY bad and some days are tolerable. Once in a while I even have a pain-free great day! I live in the Dallas area.