Hello Dawn,
I can definitely relate to what you are going through. I was just diagnosed in March of last year with RA and Fibro but I had symptoms for three years before that and no one took me seriously because of my age (at the time I was 27) and because I that I would think that it was just me but the pain was real so I just tried not to complain but I was dying inside. So at least you have a doctor that sounds like they are sticking by you so that's always a plus I have heard horror stories. It doesn't sound like things are all in your head at all that's just the way it makes you feel because your labs are normal and everything looks ok. What I have noticed though is that the pain is inside and it's doesn't always show on the outside for everyone one else can see.
I myself had back pain in my lower back for the past three years or so my doctor tool x-rays back then but there was nothing pain was so bad I couldn't sleep no matter what position I was in. Finally after complaining over and over to my doc she did more x-rays last month. I have lumber DDD and scoliosis which according to the radiology report it wasn't there on previous films but I knew it was.
Now after a bumpy year I am finally on the right things to keep my pain minimal. I too am I nurse not an RN but an LPN however I passed my boards on Mar 10th 2011 and was diagnosed on Mar15th 2011. I have been holding off on finding employment because I didn't want to lose a job because I was out so much do you issues with the RA and Fibro. Do you have FMLA at your current employer? If you do I would see if you could qualify for it as a safety net to protect your job also to help you through that days where the pains seems unbearable.
Prayer always works and the key is to stay positive. It might seem frustrating at times but know that it will get better it's just trial and error. Hope that this helps some because I think everyone here can relate to you in some way or another. I wish you the best on your Rheumy appt try to take a family member or friend with you for support and keep me updated as to how you are doing.