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mommyfor2 posted:
I'm a 31 year old mom. My children are 2 and two months. When my youngest was a month old she was hospitalized with a viral infection for 4 days and 3 nights. On the first time my hands began to ache so badly that I was in tears lifting her. It's been about six weeks and my hands still hurt.

I went to a massage therapist who massaged my forearms for am hour (they were bruised the next day) but my ands felt dramatically better. Then my sister was hospitalized and the pain returned.

The pain wakes me at night but gets better during the day. It feels much worse in my dominant hand. The pain effects different fingers each day and sometimes during the day. I sometimes loose motion in my index finger and middle finger.

My blood work showed ---RF - 22 ---ESR 23

The reason why I don't think it's RA is because I'm not fatigued and I'm so hungry all the frigging time. I read that fatigue and loss of appetite are common. Also, my writs are find. My doctor on even consider other options while I wait the 8-10 months for the specialist. When I asked her if it could be one thing else he laughed at me.

Does this sound like RA? What else could it be? My husband often work 60 plus hour a week and caring for two such young kids is so hard.

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xperky responded:
One thing I do know is that each case of rheumatoid disease can present itself uniquely. It can take a long time of watching labs and symptoms to get a solid diagnosis, so be patient. In the meantime, I hope your doctor is helpful in treating your symptoms until you see the rheumy. If not, you might seek a second opinion.
mommyfor2 replied to xperky's response:
When I asked my doctor for help managing the pain she said she'd give me tyenol 3 - not something I can take as a breast feeding mom who watching her children while her husband is at work. When I asked if we can look into other causes of the pain she literally LAUGHED at me. It was really depressing. I live in an area where it's next to impossible to switch family doctors. I feel trapped.
LadyNerilka replied to mommyfor2's response:
Like xperky said, each case is different. My only symptom for a couple months was my left ring finger triggering, no added fatigue and definitely no loss of appetite
Do as much research online as you can. See if you can find a medication that is safe to take while breastfeeding.
Most docs are jerks, I think it's part of their curriculum for their major in college. Contrary to what they think, doctors aren't gods, so stand up for yourself. You are paying them so make them work. Do research, be as knowledgeable as you can. Ask questions. If they laugh or make you feel stupid tell them what they are doing and to start treating you like a human being. I had to confront my doc and stand my ground, now we have a much better relationship.
Good luck!!!

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