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    5 year harming themselves
    Momomma2 posted:
    Hello my name is Gaylin and today I walked in on my 5 year old daughter, who was using a the edge of a magnet to scratch herself. I said "please don't do that" and she told me that she liked to hurt herself. I asked her why she liked to hurt herself and she couldn't tell me why all she could say was that I didn't spank her anymore. Now she was never spanked very often, but she told me that I didn't hurt her anymore and she liked doing it. I tried explaining that when she was spanked that it wasn't ever to hurt her. I don't understand, this is the first time that I have ever seen her doing anything like this, and am hoping that someone can give me some insight as to what I need to do? Please help this worried momma
    slik_kitty responded:
    is she behaving better so she needs fewer spankings or have you changed how you parent? has something else changed in the family dynamic?
    off_the_wall responded:
    I know there are several of us here who started harming at such a young age. At least for myself and at least one other person I can think of here, it was in response to ongoing abuse (combined with mental illness). If this were my daughter, I would absolutely make sure there wasn't someone abusing her then I would likely take her to our pediatrician for an evaluation. Is she around anyone older who self harms that she might be imitating? I only say that because she verbalized why she is harming so well- at that age and even much older I still had no idea why I was doing what I was doing.
    rugger1369 responded:
    I second with OTW and have her looked over by her pediatrician. This is a serious incident you have caught her in, and I am glad you are searching for answers. We can never be too careful when it involves our loved ones. I wish you the best in your search for answers and the safety of your daugher
    lexismom11 responded:
    This sounds like something that could be serious. I wouldn't dismiss it at all. Like everyone else is saying, take her to the doctor where she can be evaluated. She might need to be evaluated by a psychiatrist or therapist just to make sure something bad isn't going on. You need someone who specializes in treating children. There is usually a reason for the behavior, now the trick is to find out what that reason is before it gets out of hand.

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