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jankearney123 posted:
how many of ya'll have a weight problem? i'm not talking 30 or 40 lbs overweight but past that?
i have an additional woman sitting on top me/. my husband told me tonight that if i really want a lapband surgery i could get it. (my insurance co. said i wasn't covered) i don't completely meet the criteria because i'm not 40 bmi. 38.7
husband was being kind and honest but it just hurts more being this fat.
he said of course he would be more attracted to me if i weighed less. naturally he said if he weight 300lbs i wouldn't be as attracted to him. well he did weigh once 300 lbs i tole him and said that he used to crush me when we were intimate. but i never looked at him as fat. hmmm/
over our very short vaca he wanted to know if i wanted to walk down to the lake. i knew i couldn't make it down that steep a hill and back up and so i declined and told him but go ahead if you'd like to he declined.
told me today that it would be nice if i could have gone with him (he tole me no he was fine because the bugs were biting him while we were up there.) he also told me he didn't like just driving around. i wanted to go into places but he didn't. i wanted to go up to the crystal mne on a tour but he said i couldn't have handled it. i',m just a piece of crap!
here is living proof! i guess i'm going to have to start starving myhself
looked into hoodia tonight and can't make heads nor tails about who is real and who is not. also says it can make liver problems and don't know how it will interact with meds since tribesmen didnt' take them.
does anyone else here feel worthless because of they're weiught
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truigger trigger trigger IS TYAT ENUF WARNIHG?
I NEED LAPBAN SURGERY I CAN'T AFFORD IT WITHOUT MY INSURANCE PAYING FOR IT. ANOTHER PART OF ME DIED TONIGHT. ASKED HUSBAND IF I WERE THINNER WOILD HE WANT TO HUG ME MORE AND HE SAID MAYBE. I WANT TO BURN MY ARMS AND HAVEN'T BEEN DOING THAT HAD BEEN DOING STOMACH AND LEGS BUT THEY HAVE TO MUCH FAT IN THEM. WANT TO CUT TOO!I'M SLEEVLESS AT NIGHT BECAUSE OF HEAT
SO?????????MY HUSBAND SAID LOOSE THE WEIGHT FRO MYSELF NOT HIM. WELL HE IS MY MOTIVATION. I WANT TO STAY UP AN D CARRYT IOUT MY PLANS BUT I DON'T KJNOW IF IU CAN
MIND SAYS YOU MUST BUT BODY SAYS SLEEP AS I WRITE THIS
i have an additional woman sitting on top me/. my husband told me tonight that if i really want a lapband surgery i could get it. (my insurance co. said i wasn't covered) i don't completely meet the criteria because i'm not 40 bmi. 38.7
husband was being kind and honest but it just hurts more being this fat.
he said of course he would be more attracted to me if i weighed less. naturally he said if he weight 300lbs i wouldn't be as attracted to him. well he did weigh once 300 lbs i tole him and said that he used to crush me when we were intimate. but i never looked at him as fat. hmmm/
over our very short vaca he wanted to know if i wanted to walk down to the lake. i knew i couldn't make it down that steep a hill and back up and so i declined and told him but go ahead if you'd like to he declined.
told me today that it would be nice if i could have gone with him (he tole me no he was fine because the bugs were biting him while we were up there.) he also told me he didn't like just driving around. i wanted to go into places but he didn't. i wanted to go up to the crystal mne on a tour but he said i couldn't have handled it. i',m just a piece of crap!
here is living proof! i guess i'm going to have to start starving myhself
looked into hoodia tonight and can't make heads nor tails about who is real and who is not. also says it can make liver problems and don't know how it will interact with meds since tribesmen didnt' take them.
does anyone else here feel worthless because of they're weiught
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truigger trigger trigger IS TYAT ENUF WARNIHG?
I NEED LAPBAN SURGERY I CAN'T AFFORD IT WITHOUT MY INSURANCE PAYING FOR IT. ANOTHER PART OF ME DIED TONIGHT. ASKED HUSBAND IF I WERE THINNER WOILD HE WANT TO HUG ME MORE AND HE SAID MAYBE. I WANT TO BURN MY ARMS AND HAVEN'T BEEN DOING THAT HAD BEEN DOING STOMACH AND LEGS BUT THEY HAVE TO MUCH FAT IN THEM. WANT TO CUT TOO!I'M SLEEVLESS AT NIGHT BECAUSE OF HEAT
SO?????????MY HUSBAND SAID LOOSE THE WEIGHT FRO MYSELF NOT HIM. WELL HE IS MY MOTIVATION. I WANT TO STAY UP AN D CARRYT IOUT MY PLANS BUT I DON'T KJNOW IF IU CAN
MIND SAYS YOU MUST BUT BODY SAYS SLEEP AS I WRITE THIS
7 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERhow many of ya'll have a weight problem? i'm not talking 30 or 40 lbs overweight but past that?<br /> <br />i have an additional woman sitting on top me/. my husband told me tonight that if i really want a lapband surgery i could get it. (my insurance co. said i wasn't covered) i don't completely meet the criteria because i'm not 40 bmi. 38.7 <br />husband was being kind and honest but it just hurts more being this fat.<br />he said of course he would be more attracted to me if i weighed less. naturally he said if he weight 300lbs i wouldn't be as attracted to him. well he did weigh once 300 lbs i tole him and said that he used to crush me when we were intimate. but i never looked at him as fat. hmmm/<br /> <br />over our very short vaca he wanted to know if i wanted to walk down to the lake. i knew i couldn't make it down that steep a hill and back up and so i declined and told him but go ahead if you'd like to he declined.<br />told me today that it would be nice if i could have gone with him (he tole me no he was fine because the bugs were biting him while we were up there.) he also told me he didn't like just driving around. i wanted to go into places but he didn't. i wanted to go up to the crystal mne on a tour but he said i couldn't have handled it. i',m just a piece of crap!<br />here is living proof! i guess i'm going to have to start starving myhself<br />looked into hoodia tonight and can't make heads nor tails about who is real and who is not. also says it can make liver problems and don't know how it will interact with meds since tribesmen didnt' take them.<br /> <br />does anyone else here feel worthless because of they're weiught<br /> <br />88888888888888888888888888888888trger TRIGGER888888888888888888888888888888888888TRU8GGER8888888888888888888888888<br />8888888888888888888888TRIGGER8888888888888888888888888<br />TRIGGER988909899U3IEOWIOUWEOIEUQ9P8ERQ3P8EIOWEFIA<br />truigger trigger trigger IS TYAT ENUF WARNIHG?<br />I NEED LAPBAN SURGERY I CAN'T AFFORD IT WITHOUT MY INSURANCE PAYING FOR IT. ANOTHER PART OF ME DIED TONIGHT. ASKED HUSBAND IF I WERE THINNER WOILD HE WANT TO HUG ME MORE AND HE SAID MAYBE. I WANT TO BURN MY ARMS AND HAVEN'T BEEN DOING THAT HAD BEEN DOING STOMACH AND LEGS BUT THEY HAVE TO MUCH FAT IN THEM. WANT TO CUT TOO!I'M SLEEVLESS AT NIGHT BECAUSE OF HEAT<br />SO?????????MY HUSBAND SAID LOOSE THE WEIGHT FRO MYSELF NOT HIM. WELL HE IS MY MOTIVATION. I WANT TO STAY UP AN D CARRYT IOUT MY PLANS BUT I DON'T KJNOW IF IU CAN<br />MIND SAYS YOU MUST BUT BODY SAYS SLEEP AS I WRITE THIS
lexismom11 responded:
I can relate because I could stand to lose weight as well. I have gained a lot of weight since being on all of these different meds. I don't know if they are exactly the cause or not, but like I said, I could stand to lose this weight as well. I say get a good nights sleep and worry about it all tomorrow. If you truly want to get the surgery, just make sure you are well informed about the risks and benefits of the procedue. That's the only concern I have. I want to make sure you know what you are doing. Have you already done the research on the lapband procedue? If you have, that's great because you already know what you need to know. Let us know what you decide to do.
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERI can relate because I could stand to lose weight as well. I have gained a lot of weight since being on all of these different meds. I don't know if they are exactly the cause or not, but like I said, I could stand to lose this weight as well. I say get a good nights sleep and worry about it all tomorrow. If you truly want to get the surgery, just make sure you are well informed about the risks and benefits of the procedue. That's the only concern I have. I want to make sure you know what you are doing. Have you already done the research on the lapband procedue? If you have, that's great because you already know what you need to know. Let us know what you decide to do.
jankearney123 replied to lexismom11's response:
hi lexi
its not up to me if i get the surgery or not. its up to the god almighty insurance comapny who has already told me i don't have the benefit. all i can do is try and see if the docs will fight for me.
actually i was researching and found that the sleeve is better and you don't have to have anything implanted in you. i was trying to find hoodia but who knows with the concoction of what i take if it would have horrid side effects.
shoot i just realized my hubby going to store and i ordered as he asked me for breakfast 2 cherry turnovers. great goijng FRAN!
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE ME!
its not up to me if i get the surgery or not. its up to the god almighty insurance comapny who has already told me i don't have the benefit. all i can do is try and see if the docs will fight for me.
actually i was researching and found that the sleeve is better and you don't have to have anything implanted in you. i was trying to find hoodia but who knows with the concoction of what i take if it would have horrid side effects.
shoot i just realized my hubby going to store and i ordered as he asked me for breakfast 2 cherry turnovers. great goijng FRAN!
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE ME!
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERhi lexi<br />its not up to me if i get the surgery or not. its up to the god almighty insurance comapny who has already told me i don't have the benefit. all i can do is try and see if the docs will fight for me.<br />actually i was researching and found that the sleeve is better and you don't have to have anything implanted in you. i was trying to find hoodia but who knows with the concoction of what i take if it would have horrid side effects. <br />shoot i just realized my hubby going to store and i ordered as he asked me for breakfast 2 cherry turnovers. great goijng FRAN!<br />ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE ME!
lexismom11 replied to jankearney123's response:
Those insurance companies can be very greedy. It's sad that you are at the mercy of the insuance company. You don't want to take anything when you don't know what side effects it might have. Take it easy on yourself, you are not a bad person. You should not be hating yourself.
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERThose insurance companies can be very greedy. It's sad that you are at the mercy of the insuance company. You don't want to take anything when you don't know what side effects it might have. Take it easy on yourself, you are not a bad person. You should not be hating yourself.
Kate_Te replied to lexismom11's response:
Fran - I feel your pain. I'm 5'5", 230lbs. I've always been a little heavy (used to be a size 12/14) but since I started all of these psychiatric meds, I've gained 50-60lbs. I now have to shop in plus sized stores or plus sized departments - now I'm 2x or size 20.
I don't really let it bother me, except when I look at all the clothes I don't fit in anymore. Of course I don't have a man in my life right now, so it's easier to handle because I'm not trying to look good for him.
I honestly believe you can look good large if you dress stylishly and carry yourself with confidence. With the internet, I've found clothing that looks good without having to go to the mall (Women Within, The Avenue).
The only weight loss plan I've ever seen work was Weight Watchers, but it's a long process. I've known 2 people who have had the lap band surgery. One is doing fine (had it done last year) the other had complications after eating too much and breaking the band (or his stomach, I'm not sure which).
Whatever you decide to do, do it with dignity. Being overweight is not a character defect.
P,S. Thanks for the info on Disassociation.
Kate Te
I don't really let it bother me, except when I look at all the clothes I don't fit in anymore. Of course I don't have a man in my life right now, so it's easier to handle because I'm not trying to look good for him.
I honestly believe you can look good large if you dress stylishly and carry yourself with confidence. With the internet, I've found clothing that looks good without having to go to the mall (Women Within, The Avenue).
The only weight loss plan I've ever seen work was Weight Watchers, but it's a long process. I've known 2 people who have had the lap band surgery. One is doing fine (had it done last year) the other had complications after eating too much and breaking the band (or his stomach, I'm not sure which).
Whatever you decide to do, do it with dignity. Being overweight is not a character defect.
P,S. Thanks for the info on Disassociation.
Kate Te
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERFran - I feel your pain. I'm 5'5", 230lbs. I've always been a little heavy (used to be a size 12/14) but since I started all of these psychiatric meds, I've gained 50-60lbs. I now have to shop in plus sized stores or plus sized departments - now I'm 2x or size 20. <br /><br />I don't really let it bother me, except when I look at all the clothes I don't fit in anymore. Of course I don't have a man in my life right now, so it's easier to handle because I'm not trying to look good for him.<br /><br />I honestly believe you can look good large if you dress stylishly and carry yourself with confidence. With the internet, I've found clothing that looks good without having to go to the mall (Women Within, The Avenue). <br /><br />The only weight loss plan I've ever seen work was Weight Watchers, but it's a long process. I've known 2 people who have had the lap band surgery. One is doing fine (had it done last year) the other had complications after eating too much and breaking the band (or his stomach, I'm not sure which).<br /><br />Whatever you decide to do, do it with dignity. Being overweight is not a character defect. <br /><br />P,S. Thanks for the info on Disassociation.<br /><br />Kate Te
lostkate responded:
I also believe Weight Watchers is one of the best diets. Growing up in my house, my Mom tried every diet out there at the time, she even went on diet pills. The only diet plan that really worked was Weight Watchers, for her and my sisters. My family has always struggle with weight.
I just read an article about a women who had the same problem you are having with the insurance company. I know this is not the best idea but she gained weight so she could get the coverage, it wasnt a lot more weight but it she got the procedure done and says she has no regrets.
Fran your husband loves you, man just dont always realized what they are saying, especially when they talk about weight with women. Dont hate yourself, your not a bad person, the outside has nothing to do with the person you are, caring, understanding, compassionate, a true friend.
Hang in there (((Fran)))
Kate
I just read an article about a women who had the same problem you are having with the insurance company. I know this is not the best idea but she gained weight so she could get the coverage, it wasnt a lot more weight but it she got the procedure done and says she has no regrets.
Fran your husband loves you, man just dont always realized what they are saying, especially when they talk about weight with women. Dont hate yourself, your not a bad person, the outside has nothing to do with the person you are, caring, understanding, compassionate, a true friend.
Hang in there (((Fran)))
Kate
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERI also believe Weight Watchers is one of the best diets. Growing up in my house, my Mom tried every diet out there at the time, she even went on diet pills. The only diet plan that really worked was Weight Watchers, for her and my sisters. My family has always struggle with weight. <br /> <br /> I just read an article about a women who had the same problem you are having with the insurance company. I know this is not the best idea but she gained weight so she could get the coverage, it wasnt a lot more weight but it she got the procedure done and says she has no regrets. <br /> <br /> Fran your husband loves you, man just dont always realized what they are saying, especially when they talk about weight with women. Dont hate yourself, your not a bad person, the outside has nothing to do with the person you are, caring, understanding, compassionate, a true friend.<br /><br />Hang in there (((Fran)))<br />Kate
jankearney123 replied to Kate_Te's response:
kate te
i've tried ww first time when i was 13 after knee surgery and went with my 19 yr old sister. I weighed 170 at age 13 5'10".
now i'm 270 40 years later. exactly kate te pschy meds/. when i went into the first pdoc they put me on so much different stuff that i gained over 80 lbs. and since they've done the same thing to me again and so do theyhelp me hell NO
they tell me to eat sensibly and exercise. Right! i will be in the pool 2 times this week.
you're welcome for the info on disassociation. you want to stand grounded and o i'll add to that because i just remembered a really good oe that i've used in the past.
i've tried ww first time when i was 13 after knee surgery and went with my 19 yr old sister. I weighed 170 at age 13 5'10".
now i'm 270 40 years later. exactly kate te pschy meds/. when i went into the first pdoc they put me on so much different stuff that i gained over 80 lbs. and since they've done the same thing to me again and so do theyhelp me hell NO
they tell me to eat sensibly and exercise. Right! i will be in the pool 2 times this week.
you're welcome for the info on disassociation. you want to stand grounded and o i'll add to that because i just remembered a really good oe that i've used in the past.
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERkate te<br />i've tried ww first time when i was 13 after knee surgery and went with my 19 yr old sister. I weighed 170 at age 13 5'10".<br /> <br />now i'm 270 40 years later. exactly kate te pschy meds/. when i went into the first pdoc they put me on so much different stuff that i gained over 80 lbs. and since they've done the same thing to me again and so do theyhelp me hell NO<br />they tell me to eat sensibly and exercise. Right! i will be in the pool 2 times this week.<br /> <br />you're welcome for the info on disassociation. you want to stand grounded and o i'll add to that because i just remembered a really good oe that i've used in the past.
jankearney123 replied to lostkate's response:
hi kate!
i'm so glad you joined coming back here. you have so much to offer people and i get to missin youl when i see your rainbow peace sign it makes me feel happy.
well even if i gained the weight they don't cover it under my plan. i was reading last night about sleeve surgery and that sounds much better. its very interesteing and you don't have to worry about having someithing in your body that is artificial that gets messed up!
if all else fails i guess i'll starve and loose weight.
i know my husband loves me but i know he's embarrassed to be seen with me.
thanks for all the kind words from everyone who responded here. it makes me feel like someone reallyh does care about me.
i'm so glad you joined coming back here. you have so much to offer people and i get to missin youl when i see your rainbow peace sign it makes me feel happy.
well even if i gained the weight they don't cover it under my plan. i was reading last night about sleeve surgery and that sounds much better. its very interesteing and you don't have to worry about having someithing in your body that is artificial that gets messed up!
if all else fails i guess i'll starve and loose weight.
i know my husband loves me but i know he's embarrassed to be seen with me.
thanks for all the kind words from everyone who responded here. it makes me feel like someone reallyh does care about me.
Report This| Share this:weight problem/ot kinda TRIGGERhi kate!<br />i'm so glad you joined coming back here. you have so much to offer people and i get to missin youl when i see your rainbow peace sign it makes me feel happy.<br /> <br />well even if i gained the weight they don't cover it under my plan. i was reading last night about sleeve surgery and that sounds much better. its very interesteing and you don't have to worry about having someithing in your body that is artificial that gets messed up!<br /> <br />if all else fails i guess i'll starve and loose weight.<br />i know my husband loves me but i know he's embarrassed to be seen with me.<br /> <br />thanks for all the kind words from everyone who responded here. it makes me feel like someone reallyh does care about me.
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