Skip to content

    Announcements

    Exciting News for WebMD Members!

    We've been busy behind the scenes building new message boards for you. You'll have new and easier ways to find messages, connect with others, and share your stories.

    And, this will all be available on your smartphone or other mobile device!

    What Do You Need to Do?

    The message board you're used to will be closing in the coming weeks. While many of your boards will be making the move to our new home, your posts will not. Want to keep a discussion going? Save posts you want to continue (this includes your member profile story), so that you can re-post them in the new message boards.

    Keep an eye here and on your email inbox, we'll be back in touch soon to give you all the information you need!


    Yours in health,
    WebMD Message Boards Management

    It's been suggested that we leave a space between the start of a post and the triggering part.

    Write something innocuous in the first line. then leave some spaces between in and the subject matter. this should take care of accidentally triggering someone.

    How and Why to Report a Post
    lets get something straight
    avatar
    sittingbull594 posted:
    I was thinking about something the other day.....

    How its all to easily (ME INCLUDED) TO use the blame game either totally on myself or displace onto others.

    It's their fault O NO it's only my fault.

    When we hide from ourselves then we are introducing fear...
    when we hide from going outside into the world we are introducing fear.....
    when we state O i can't do this..........Is it that we can't or we won't??? there's a huge difference.
    When we won't is it because we're being willful and not willing to try something different.... I learned a long time ago that when you keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results how can this be?? You will not get different results if you keep doing the same thing over and over the same way you have to do something different in order to get different results.
    I personally have hidden and i have also been willful not willing to do something different.
    Then there's the blame game... When we blame someone something else for how we are feeling....Well think about it. Did that someone somthing tell you ok SB you need to feel sorrow, anger or hatred??? No we are conditioned by our colorful pasts upon seeing another similiar instance we react. Either to ourselves (BOY AREN'T WE BIG ENOUGH) BECAUSE we hold ourself to such apparently Godlike etal? only qualities that only ourself is to blame for the situaiton or theres the other way of when we blame everyone (thing) else for our demise.

    SO I THOUGHT THIS WOULD BE A GOOD EXERCISE WITHOUT ANYONE BLOWING A FUSE. THE OBJECTIVE IS JUST THAT TO TRY AND BE OBJECTIVE AND GENTLE ENOUGH WITH OURSELVES TO SEE WHERE THE SHOE FITS FOR US??? IT MAY FIT ON MORE THAN ONE FOOT EH? FOR ME IT FITS ON ALL ACCOUNTS.
    BASED ON THAT INFO I am willing to do the following:

    1) Even when i don't want to go somewhere or do something I will force myslef to do it because therein lies the solution to my fear. Any good therapist will guide us to exposure therapy so therefore once upon being exposed over and over again we become habituated meaning that we have a habit that we can count on.

    2) Even when I (like last night) think i'm the only one who has created a situation because after all aren't i all that??? AND SO TOTALLY I THINK TO MYSELF "I MADE MY HUSBAND FEEL POORLY BOUT HIMSELF IN FRONT OF THE HELP" Well for every interaction we have there is a reaction. So i spoke interaction and then husband reacted when we talked last night. He felt i talked to him like a child in front of help. I FELT SO BADLY 8888888 trigger
    TRIGGER..... that i wanted to sh in the worst ways. There was a lot more going on that meets the eyes but you get the general gist.
    So how could i think i'm the only one having behavior that was working against husband. afterall, he's responsible for how he INTERPRETS THE INFORMATION HE HEARS!! AND what i'm figuring out as i write this AND HAVE ALWAYS KNOWN IS THAT IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! especially when you're reacting to a situation. Come on you know this. there are always 2 or more parts to everything. are you with me?

    Then there are the circum stances that we become angry or disheveled with an entitity such as (i'LL USE THIS AS AN EXAMPLE : WEB MD) DID web md throw a dirty deal for us here : well the general consensus was that they did. However, after the mudslinging had went on for quiet a while most decided that this was something they had to accept and just move on because there was nothing else we could do but police ourselves (so to speak) Which we have and there has been some monitoring fromwebmd behind the scenes as well. So it does work out.

    Sometimes not liek we'd like but then they call this life.
    Reply
     
    avatar
    slik_kitty responded:
    so true, to all of it.
     
    avatar
    sittingbull594 replied to slik_kitty's response:
    thank you kitty you get it!


    Spotlight: Member Stories

    I've been a self mutilator for the last seven years of my life, and I need to get myself together before I go off to college for the first time in...More

    Helpful Tips

    real useable smilies part 4
    http://www.myemoticons.com/emoticons/images/msn/girlie/teddy.gif gotta have a cute stuffie! ... More
    Was this Helpful?
    24 of 33 found this helpful

    Report Problems With Your Medications to the FDA

    FDAYou are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit the FDA MedWatch website or call 1-800-FDA-1088.