have you tried driving in the car with a pacifier?? My niece would get hysterical and had colic... I was only 19 and my sis would drive and i'd hold K and she would sleep. I know you'd have to put E in a car seat but???
Maybe try some kind of "busy work" like coloring or handing the older one a paint brush and bucket of water and take her outside to "paint" the house, the fence, the ground, etc. I will sometimes lay the kid down on the floor or in the bed next to me and say we are going to play the cozy game. I don't use the words "nap" or "sleep" since that can set off the "I'M-NOT-GONNA-SLEEP-AND-YOU-CAN'T-MAKE-ME"s. The tent thing is pretty cool too. (y) Thinking of you. (*(*(*(*(*(HUGS)*)*)*)*)*)
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Thank yall for the suggestions. For some reason today the screaming was really triggering to me. It's just so.... LOUD. And constant. And unfortunately it was the baby who was hysterical. I did end up going for a drive which sometimes causing more screaming but this time, thankfully, it seemed to calm down the baby and only cause a bit of fussing from the toddler. Still feeling pretty upset about things and like a real bad mother.
I've never even thought of giving her a little sugar. That's a great idea because like today I thought something must be hurting her and gave her some Tylenol. When the sweet Tylenol was in her mouth she was quiet. Unfortunately it didn't last.
I feel like a bad mother because I have started acting frustrated with all the screaming. I act frustrated and I tell her, "Please stop screaming!" and then my toddler repeats the cross words at the baby. I'm crying just thinking about it now. My poor baby is hurting and her mother and sister act frustrated with her.
I think what paja has written to you is brilliant. Just watch her from pereferial vision and P too cuz of course she needs a lollipop too. Just wanna make sure they don't choke.
Good luck. You're human and human's become frustrated. It's really ok to have these feelings. It's ok to say Please stop screaming. and now you're aware of you're behavior so what's wrong about that??? Nothing!
You're human! NOT JC yet.... sweet gal
THe description of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results. You're looking for other things OTW.... You're trying to solve the problem. Anyone would be frustrated in your shoes.
Thank yall for the suggestions. I haven't had a chance to go to the store for lollipops yet. And the non-stop screaming has continued today. But I have only tried to comfort her and have not acted frustrated so I'm glad about that.
Trigger below _______________________________ ____________________________________________ ___________________________________________ _____________________________________________ x x x x x While I was dealing with all the screaming, P got her step stool and started going through every drawer in the house. And guess what she found, extra razor blades for my husband's box cutter that probably lives in the garage. Thankfully they were still in their packaging so P couldn't hurt herself on them. But, well, you know, super triggering to me to have such a handy tool to use. I took them from her and immediately put them on the top shelf in the bathroom so they will be accessible to me. I keep telling myself, "Just because you think it doesn't mean you have to act on it". But boy oh boy, the screaming is just making my head spin and now she's actually napping and I'm stressed because I know she never naps more than 30 minutes and she also refuses to take another nap after this one. So this is my one break and my one chance to get a little relief.
Please Put E In A Safe Place and go outside with P and tell her you're going to play this game. Teach P how to deep breathe. Do this for at least 5 mins. It might help being able to slow things down. That's what I have to do when things start getting out of control. SLOOWWWWWWWWWWWWW things down.
When does hubby get home? Can you hang onto that and tell him you need 2 hours off tonight?? or even 1 hour just to yourself without any kids. You're way past overdue!
Yes you don't have to act on it. You have started doing new behaviors instead of old ones to cope with. That's what you need to hold onto.
God Speed..... Get those suckers tonight while your husband watches both children is my best advice. You're on the verge of cracking sounds like and so I'd be honest and candid to him when he gets home. He loves you and will spell ya.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Thank y'all so much for caring. Prayers were answered tonight because just when I couldn't take things anymore God provided a rain shower and I watched my girls laugh and shriek with joy while the oldest danced in the rain and made up a silly song to sing. From lowest of the lows to feeling filled with joy. Thank you, especially SB because I know you were praying for me and God listened.
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