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An_215441 posted:
//////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// this nothing meant dor taking away people s positive//////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// i want to know why is it that we work on forgiveness for the people in our liife why is that they never forgive us for what we do. they be little us to the point that we have such a hard time seeing that we are worth more
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An_215442 responded:
healing and moving on is ENTIRELY POSSIBLE without forgiving those who wronged you.

The key to it lies with YOU stop carring the anger and the hate. When you can stop carring that anger/rage forward then they will no longer fill your thoughts, control your actions.

Then you are free of there abusive mind control.

Being forced to "forgive" those who wronged you is not healthy. Being made to feel bad because you can't/won't forgive someone who abused you AND ISN"T ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS is just crazy making behavior.

Its perfectly fine to exclude abuseive creeps from your live and when you are healthy and on solid ground, and if you choose, to re-add them in your life. But never expect to get and apology or and explination.
 
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shanabanana09 responded:
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I couldn't agree w/you more. I have went thru the same b.s. for soooooo many years from ex and his family!!! They have belittled me to my son and everyone else that they possibly could. And I could forgive, I could go on, if they would stop it!!! But they never do. It never stops. So how in the world can we forgive, forget, get a grip and just move on. We can't! I'll be glad when some really evil ppl in this world are no longer here honestly, and make this world a happier place!
 
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Caprice_WebMD_Staff replied to shanabanana09's response:
Forgiveness isn't done for them, it's about letting go and moving forward so they no longer control you. There's no point in giving them even a bit of your energy if they're this negative.

Keep looking after your son and yourself and take the high road. It can really pay off in the long run.
We never touch people so lightly that we do not leave a trace. ~Peggy Tabor Millin


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