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    Is Your Sex Life Aging Well?
    Chris_WebMD_Staff posted:
    What percentage of people over age 45 are satisfied with their sex life?

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    Life is too short, so kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly.
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    Retiredin2000 responded:
    My wife and I are in our upper 60s and our sex lives are great. We both believe that sexual intimacy is very important in a loving marriage. So much of sex is in your brain, your attitudes, your beliefs, etc. There is also a physical component. We consider ourselves very lucky as we are in love, healthy, fit and active. We are retired but keep very busy with hobbies and volunteer work, but we always make sure we reserve time for sex.

    We don't have fast sex, we usually take an hour or more as it takes a long time for my wife to orgasm. I love foreplay and we take our time. I like to lightly caress her body and see and feel her respond. Yes, her breasts still do swell and tighten and her nipples get very erect. Her heavy breathing and body responses are a turn on for me too. When I move down and find her clitoris erect and her vagina very wet, she is super turned on and wants me to enter her and climax. Like most women, she doesn't orgasm from intercourse, but she likes intercourse — it is like a continuation of foreplay. (She likes me to climax first because her orgasms are very intense and she can't take me while she is in the midst of her orgasm.) After I climax I try to keep her at a plateau while I catch my breath. Then I take her to orgasm by fingers, mouth or toys. Her orgasms are like a 10.0 earthquake, and her skin is so sensitive she cannot be touched anywhere. After a minute or so she starts to "come down" and then gets another, what I call "aftershocks". This goes on for up to 10 minutes and then we can cuddle and doze off in each other's arms.

    We have sex 2 to 3 times a week. We usually have a Sunday afternoon date in bed, a Wednesday morning wake-up sex session, and any other time the mood strikes us. Like yesterday, I woke up at 4:30 to go to the bathroom and when I got back to bed I wasn't sleepy. I started lightly caressing her and in a couple of minutes she was breathing heavily and very welcoming. At about 5:30 we went back to sleep in each other's arms. She was smiling sensually all day.

    We always had a great sex life, and things did slow down a bit 4-5 years ago. My wife was concerned because she wasn't initiating sex quite as often as me. Then she saw an Oprah series on bio-identical hormone replacement. It is not only for sex, but for energy, aches and pains, and all that getting older stuff. She tried it, liked it, and then we both started treatments. It is great! You have more energy, the aches & pains of an active life are gone, and your libido goes back to where it was in your 30s.

    The bottom line for us is, you can do things to "stay young" and sex is a vital part of staying young and in love.

    someonewhocares3 responded:
    My sex life with my husband of many years WAS great until I had an unnecessary hysterectomy at the age of 50. (My gyn and two gyn residents removed my uterus and both ovaries for a benign cystadenoma.) I lost all libido and response is greatly diminished. I was one of the 25% of women who had uterine orgasms (during intercourse). All other orgasms pale in comparison. And sadly, loss of sexual function is just one of many adverse effects of hysterectomy (with or without ovary removal). Hormones have not had much of an impact on my desire or response. Here's a link to the adverse effects of hysterectomy - . BTW, 76% of hysterectomies don't meet ACOG's criteria for the surgery - .
    Jamlove replied to someonewhocares3's response:
    I had a hysterectomy in 2011 with 1 ovary left and my sexual ddesire has increased. My orgasms are more intense and were I only had 1 orgasm, I now have multiple orgasms and its a a beautiful thang.
    dfromspencer responded:
    I am now 53 years old. I was married when i was 21. After 15 years of marriage, we divorced. After that, i had a few girlfriends. However; i came to believe that love should be a priority for sexual intercourse. After that, i have found that i have ED. I am taking levitra for this, and it works great. But, i am not happy with my sex life. I have found it hard to love woman again after my divorce. Therefore; i dont have sex. I haven't had sex with a woman for the last 18 years. About a year ago, i fell head over heels for a married woman. I didn't know that at the time. I have never "HIT" on her or anything. Anyway; i have found that i can love again, so that is a pluss. Now, if i can only find one that i can love?
    rhondamay responded:
    After nearly 35 years of marriage my sex life is still wonderful. During our marriage we have had some ups and downs but have managed to keep good lines of communication and thus have avoid any serious consequences.

    I had a hysterectomy a few years after the birth of our second child and have never regretted it. If it had any impact on my sex life it was positive.

    Menopause has brought it's challenges but with the help of HRT this too has been overcome. I feel very fortunate and I am looking forward to many more years of a wonderful and intimate relationship with a man who is a loving husband and my closest friend. He still makes my heart beat faster when he smiles at me.
    Easy99 responded:
    I am well over 45. I like for a session to last for and hour to 1.5 hours. Including various positions, activities, massage, and continually wanting the new high. If two people are in love I thiink they can get "high" on sex. I don't mind everyday. Is this too much of an obsession?

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