masturbation
An_244541 posted:
My husb & I are both very sexual & have sex apx 4 times a wk. I have become aware that he sometimes mastubates after we have sex and he thinks I'm asleep. He'll turn on a movie on demand with sex in it and masturbate. He doesn't have an orgasm that I am aware of when he does it.
16 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:masturbationMy husb & I are both very sexual & have sex apx 4 times a wk. I have become aware that he sometimes mastubates after we have sex and he thinks I'm asleep. He'll turn on a movie on demand with sex in it and masturbate. He doesn't have an orgasm that I am aware of when he does it.
tlkittycat1968 replied to HairyD's response:
You are aware that a majority of women do not orgasm via intercourse along and need some sort of clitoral stimulation right? Just because a woman needs a vibrator to orgasm doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy having sex with her husband. Now if the woman would rather orgasm with a vibrator than have sex with her husband, then there's a problem the same as if a man would rather masturbate than have sex with his partner.
Report This| Share this:masturbationYou are aware that a majority of women do not orgasm via intercourse along and need some sort of clitoral stimulation right? Just because a woman needs a vibrator to orgasm doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy having sex with her husband. Now if the woman would rather orgasm with a vibrator than have sex with her husband, then there's a problem the same as if a man would rather masturbate than have sex with his partner.
hawkridge2 replied to DfromSpencer's response:
Dennis..........I know...right! WOW was also my thoughts on some of the responses. Seems like they were more interested in language (or lack of it) and telling what they do. Maybe I should never have started this.
I don't have internal orgasms during sex but he takes care of that. We enjoy the intimacy of sex and he does have an orgasm every time (I think). He says he does. He had a vasectomy and his fluid goes back into the bladder so there is no physical proof. That is why I was concerned about his masturbating. I just want to make sure he is actually having an orgasm and not thinking he has to take care of himself. And yes we have talked about it an he says he has orgasms. Guess I'm just skeptical......Thank you Dennis for your sane response
I don't have internal orgasms during sex but he takes care of that. We enjoy the intimacy of sex and he does have an orgasm every time (I think). He says he does. He had a vasectomy and his fluid goes back into the bladder so there is no physical proof. That is why I was concerned about his masturbating. I just want to make sure he is actually having an orgasm and not thinking he has to take care of himself. And yes we have talked about it an he says he has orgasms. Guess I'm just skeptical......Thank you Dennis for your sane response
Report This| Share this:masturbationDennis..........I know...right! WOW was also my thoughts on some of the responses. Seems like they were more interested in language (or lack of it) and telling what they do. Maybe I should never have started this.<br />I don't have internal orgasms during sex but he takes care of that. We enjoy the intimacy of sex and he does have an orgasm every time (I think). He says he does. He had a vasectomy and his fluid goes back into the bladder so there is no physical proof. That is why I was concerned about his masturbating. I just want to make sure he is actually having an orgasm and not thinking he has to take care of himself. And yes we have talked about it an he says he has orgasms. Guess I'm just skeptical......Thank you Dennis for your sane response
Anon_6207 replied to hawkridge2's response:
Hi,
If I'm right are you saying he doesn't ejaculate any fluid (semen) when he has an orgasm since his vasectomy ?
I had a vasectomy about 4 months ago and I ejaculate about the same amount of semen as I did before the operation. The only difference now is there is no sperm in the semen. It looks the same and smells the same.
Its virtually impossible there is no physical proof if he has had an orgasm unless something is wrong with him physically.
If that's also really true it could also explain why he has to masturbate again. He isn't getting any release from the orgasm and he is still aroused. That would really be frustrating for him and would explain your issue with him.
Forgive me making a suggestion, but watch if he ejaculates when he masturbates. if he doesn't he needs to see a urologist (or the doctor who performed his vasectomy).
BTW To see if the vasectomy was successful, he needs to go back and have a semen sample checked (after about 3 months). I had to go back twice as the first time there was still sperm in my first sample.
Hasn't he done that yet ?
WebMD has some articles on having a vasectomy if you want to read more. Its mainly where I found out about it before having the procedure done.
See: http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/vasectomy-14387
In th article it clearly states a vasectomy doesn't prevent you from ejaculating.
Hope that helps....
If I'm right are you saying he doesn't ejaculate any fluid (semen) when he has an orgasm since his vasectomy ?
I had a vasectomy about 4 months ago and I ejaculate about the same amount of semen as I did before the operation. The only difference now is there is no sperm in the semen. It looks the same and smells the same.
Its virtually impossible there is no physical proof if he has had an orgasm unless something is wrong with him physically.
If that's also really true it could also explain why he has to masturbate again. He isn't getting any release from the orgasm and he is still aroused. That would really be frustrating for him and would explain your issue with him.
Forgive me making a suggestion, but watch if he ejaculates when he masturbates. if he doesn't he needs to see a urologist (or the doctor who performed his vasectomy).
BTW To see if the vasectomy was successful, he needs to go back and have a semen sample checked (after about 3 months). I had to go back twice as the first time there was still sperm in my first sample.
Hasn't he done that yet ?
WebMD has some articles on having a vasectomy if you want to read more. Its mainly where I found out about it before having the procedure done.
See: http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/vasectomy-14387
In th article it clearly states a vasectomy doesn't prevent you from ejaculating.
Hope that helps....
Report This| Share this:masturbationHi,<br /><br /><br /> <br />If I'm right are you saying he doesn't ejaculate any fluid (semen) when he has an orgasm since his vasectomy ?<br /><br /><br /><br />I had a vasectomy about 4 months ago and I ejaculate about the same amount of semen as I did before the operation. The only difference now is there is no sperm in the semen. It looks the same and smells the same. <br /><br /><br />Its virtually impossible there is no physical proof if he has had an orgasm unless something is wrong with him physically.<br /><br /><br />If that's also really true it could also explain why he has to masturbate again. He isn't getting any release from the orgasm and he is still aroused. That would really be frustrating for him and would explain your issue with him.<br /><br /><br />Forgive me making a suggestion, but watch if he ejaculates when he masturbates. if he doesn't he needs to see a urologist (or the doctor who performed his vasectomy).<br /><br /><br />BTW To see if the vasectomy was successful, he needs to go back and have a semen sample checked (after about 3 months). I had to go back twice as the first time there was still sperm in my first sample.<br />Hasn't he done that yet ?<br /><br /><br /> <br />WebMD has some articles on having a vasectomy if you want to read more. Its mainly where I found out about it before having the procedure done.<br />See: <a href="http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/vasectomy-14387">http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/vasectomy-14387</a><br />In th article it clearly states a vasectomy doesn't prevent you from ejaculating.<br /><br /><br />Hope that helps....
An_244541 replied to Anon_6207's response:
The vasectomy was done many years ago (we've only been together for a year). I have never seen any evidence of seminal fluid ....when we make love or when he masturbates. But he "acts" as though he has had an orgasm and tells me that he has when we've talked about it. He has 2 children so I know that there was fluid at some point and he said that after he had the vasectomy he hasn't had any seminal fluid with any ejaculation.
Thank you for your reply....
Thank you for your reply....
Report This| Share this:masturbationThe vasectomy was done many years ago (we've only been together for a year). I have never seen any evidence of seminal fluid ....when we make love or when he masturbates. But he "acts" as though he has had an orgasm and tells me that he has when we've talked about it. He has 2 children so I know that there was fluid at some point and he said that after he had the vasectomy he hasn't had any seminal fluid with any ejaculation.<br />Thank you for your reply....
Anon_6207 replied to An_244541's response:
The one thing that makes me think he does actually have an orgasm is that he masturbates. There really would be no point in masturbating if he doesn't have an orgasm.
It sounds to me more likely he developed medical problem as a result of his vasectomy and now has a dry orgasm.
See:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dry-orgasm/MY00811/DSECTION=causes
Their are also links (top left) "Definition" and "When to see a doctor" for more info.
From what the article says its not dangerous.
Hope that helps.
Report This| Share this:masturbation<br />The one thing that makes me think he does actually have an orgasm is that he masturbates. There really would be no point in masturbating if he doesn't have an orgasm.<br /><br /><br />It sounds to me more likely he developed medical problem as a result of his vasectomy and now has a dry orgasm.<br /><br /><br />See:<br /><a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dry-orgasm/MY00811/DSECTION=causes">http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dry-orgasm/MY00811/DSECTION=causes</a><br />Their are also links (top left) "Definition" and "When to see a doctor" for more info.<br /><br /><br />From what the article says its not dangerous.<br /><br /><br /><br />Hope that helps.
