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What am I supposed to do?

An_240640 posted:

My husband is really excited to have sex, but we haven't so far because I'm terrified. All I know about sex is what my mom told me on our wedding day which was just the physical differences between boys and girls, what goes where, and to tell him he's very good at it. But I have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing. Help!

3 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:What am I supposed to do?My husband is really excited to have sex, but we haven't so far because I'm terrified. All I know about sex is what my mom told me on our wedding day which was just the physical differences between boys and girls, what goes where, and to tell him he's very good at it. But I have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing. Help!

An_240941 responded:

How old are you may I ask? You no nothing at all about sex & you're married & haven't consummated? If he isn't good don't lie. Be honest. It's the only way for the two of you to get to know each other sexually & figure out what each other enjoys from one another. Sex should be fun & exciting not boring & a chore. You should both enjoy it. Don't worry about what you should or shouldn't be doing. The first time for most isn't enjoyable & if he his a virgin too then probably wont last long. For me my first time, well it isn't that it wasn't enjoyable & it didn't hurt, but it was awkward. After the first time you get past that & start figuring out what you like & don't like during sex. I assume you married him because you love him & he loves you (or at least I hope that's why you guys got married), so you should be able to enjoy each other physically & talk with one another about what you each enjoy about one another sexually. Start with kisses & touch & work your way to the rest. Foreplay (working your way to actual intercourse, typically, with other sexual activity) can be very enjoyable as well & will most likely get you more in the mood (if you let go & let him touch you) & make getting started into intercourse easier. I hope that helps & I hope you enjoy your 1st time. Stop being scared. There is nothing scary about sex. It is a beautiful & natural part of life & how life is created. Also it is a very important part of a healthy relationship in my opinion.

Report This| Share this:What am I supposed to do?How old are you may I ask? You no nothing at all about sex & you're married & haven't consummated? If he isn't good don't lie. Be honest. It's the only way for the two of you to get to know each other sexually & figure out what each other enjoys from one another. Sex should be fun & exciting not boring & a chore. You should both enjoy it. Don't worry about what you should or shouldn't be doing. The first time for most isn't enjoyable & if he his a virgin too then probably wont last long. For me my first time, well it isn't that it wasn't enjoyable & it didn't hurt, but it was awkward. After the first time you get past that & start figuring out what you like & don't like during sex. I assume you married him because you love him & he loves you (or at least I hope that's why you guys got married), so you should be able to enjoy each other physically & talk with one another about what you each enjoy about one another sexually. Start with kisses & touch & work your way to the rest. Foreplay (working your way to actual intercourse, typically, with other sexual activity) can be very enjoyable as well & will most likely get you more in the mood (if you let go & let him touch you) & make getting started into intercourse easier. I hope that helps & I hope you enjoy your 1st time. Stop being scared. There is nothing scary about sex. It is a beautiful & natural part of life & how life is created. Also it is a very important part of a healthy relationship in my opinion.

melisfit replied to An_240941's response:

thank you

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dfgbull responded:

There are 2 good books that could help
1 No more headaches by Dr. Juli Slattery - this will help you address any emotional issues that may be hindering you
2 Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman - gives you some ideas of what and how to do.

Report This| Share this:What am I supposed to do?There are 2 good books that could help<br />1 No more headaches by Dr. Juli Slattery - this will help you address any emotional issues that may be hindering you<br />2 Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman - gives you some ideas of what and how to do.

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