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    How do you spice up your love life?
    Chris_WebMD_Staff posted:
    Do you and your partner ever check into a hotel or just get-a-way to a hotel overnight to spice things up? How do you keep your relationship fun and exciting?

    Life is too short, so kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly.
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    queston responded:
    Sadly, no. I wish we did, but my wife always says we can't afford it.

    It's true that money is tight and we have kids in college, but I think it's a matter of priority. I'd gladly put off buying new shoes or whatever to pay for a hotel getaway, but it's clearly not a priority to her.

    So, to answer your other question--"How do you keep your relationship fun and exciting?" Well, we don't.
    Anon_4048 replied to queston's response:
    Spice doesn't necessarily mean jalapeno - sometimes just a pinch of salt or something familiar is spice enough. We're sort of the same boat - the both of us would say we can't afford a hotel room. To be honest, getting a hotel room would put undo stress onto the situation: selecting the hotel, getting there, taking stuff, etc. What I've gone for is arranging for the kids to be over at a friend's house for a few hours without telling my wife - then going to a movie or walk or a similar activity. I've found that this allows her to relax and we generally have more frequent sex as a result. Another aspect is reciprocating with my kid's friend's parents: volunteering to have the friend over for a day or sleepover - that makes arrangements much easier to manage.
    tlkittycat1968 responded:
    We'd love to do that but we'd have to find someone to watch the kids. Since my parents already watch them twice a week, we're reluctant to ask them to do more.

    One thing we do is have sex in a different room other than the bedroom. In our case that means the living room. With all that space, we do try different positions.
    Jumper2011 responded:
    My wife and I typically take at least one weekend trip a year but we try to make two. In fact we just returned from a trip this past weekend to celebrate our anniversary. We always have fun sightseeing, relaxing, etc. And it always seems like our inhibitions are lowered a little when we're away. This past weekend we finally got around to playing a sex game on my computer that we've had for months. Needless to say that was fun!

    I think the idea of being in a different place tends to do that for some people. At least it does for me. We had a great time on our trip and we're already planning our next one.
    3point14 responded:
    Travel is hugely important to both of us, and when we travel we both tend to love the "newness" of each other somewhere else and it is a little kick-start. I love learning new ways in which he is capable, like guiding us around a new town or setting up fun plans for us.

    Ironically, this weekend I'll be going away with some of my friends and my fella will be showing up the second night. I don't think I'm brave enough to have sex in a house with friends of mine in it...but we shall see! hehehe

    In general, a lot of our "spice" is oddly being comfortable. It's by far our longest relationship for both of us, and having a huge well of comfort to draw from allows us both to be really open about what we're into and stuff we want to try. I'm fortunate in that he's not intimidated by toys, and he's fortunate in that I'm fine with porn.

    We're also both really spur-of-the-moment types of people...and when we're just hanging out around the house we'll both start teasing each other and laughing, which almost always leads to sex.
    shelbyray69 responded:
    We do! Not as often as we used to because reality set in and bills came flying, but we still plan nights for just us (no kids yet) to go to a bar for drinks, or a movie, or the occasional hotel. We live 2 hours south of Minneapolis so it's a fun get away for us to hit up the Twin Cities, that way it's close enough to be affordable but far enough away to feel like a vacation and we don't normally know anyone around there. The sex life is good, can be repetitive, but there are times where I whip out my toy bag and we do something out of our routine. We are due to be married next June and my one goal was to never be like his ex, or most married women. Lame and boring and uneventful. I love sex and I love keeping him satisfied so I hope it's something I can keep up with!
    Isotopecrunch responded:
    Yes. We try to do it 3-4 times a year. Last year, my girlfriend took up golf, so we ended up taking a few golf weekends away. Nothing too expensive, but an overnight trip with a romantic night, followed by a round of golf.

    I highly recommend people to find a common activity and try to take getaways surrounded by the activity.
    navalli replied to tlkittycat1968's response:
    Wow! thats a nice idea ! I will try it out for sure .Since at times kids sleep with us.Giving us very little space to make love also exploring new positions.
    BumbleB0608 responded:
    Yes at least once a month and we don't have any children but just the idea of getting away and being serene and secluded is a great feeling. . We role play a little like I'm the maid sneaking in or a total stranger knocking on the door.
    loove23 responded:
    No, we would love to, however i guess i would be saying the same thing that the money is not there with all the other responsiblity, however what we do is do it in different place, different rooms, sometimes we will go outside, when it is dark.... we try to have fun will making sex also we do different thing to keep other been satisfied.....

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