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An_245109 posted:
Did my boyfriend recently cheat on me while I was out of town for the weekend? Why do I deal with this? An_245109 posted: My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for over 3 years now. We ended it for awhile due to the fact that he cheated on me with a girl from online. Our sex life has drastically diminished to nothing because he doesnt want to have sex. He tells me I have a problem because I want it ALL the time. I eventually get it after pouting for a couple days. Its always me doing all the work , he just lays there. He has had a problem with porn, watching it and taking care of himself instead of wanting sex with me. I know he still does this when im not home. Just a week ago before I went out of town for the weekend I looked at his computer histore, and sure enough lots of porn , but what concerned me was the history of looking up local hook=ups in our area! I asked him about this, and he says he just does it for fun. I just got back from out of town this morning, and I initiated sex, I went down on him and couldnt believe my EYES!!! his penis was blood red, swollen a little, around were the shaft and head come together. It also had a little bit of blood. I asked what happened, and thougth for sure it was from wild sex with someone while i was gone out of town, but he tells me " it was from playing to much with himself" , I dont know what to believe. He said he was sorry, but he was horny while I was out of town (thats a first) Please help me, I as so confused.

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fcl responded:
You're confused? so am I. Why would you want to stay with someone who refuses you sex, cheats on you? Why on earth would you still be with him after seeing the state of his penis? Why would you settle for a guy like this? You can't trust him and he's doing nothing to gain your trust.

My advice? Drop him. Regain your self esteem. Raise your standards. You deserve so much better.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
 
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georgiagail replied to fcl's response:
And while you're at it, consider getting some STD testing.

Gail
 
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rhondamay responded:

An_245109, if you are looking for someone to tell you to hang in there with this immature jerk, you may have come to the wrong place.

There is nothing wrong with masturbation unless it starts interfering with your life, work or relationship.

The sooner you rid yourself of this guy, the better off you will be.

Good luck,

Rhonda
 
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hairyd replied to rhondamay's response:
I agree with the girls. It's weird that he is horny when your out of town. But when you are there hot he is not. Could he be watching the male stars. After three years I would have advise him more action or your walking.
Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
 
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LonelyandWondering replied to fcl's response:
I am still with him because I love him. Love is blind. I want to talk to him about our relationship in detail, but he gets mad and starts yelling. Thank you for your response, my friends say the same thing. Why cant I just leave him?
 
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LonelyandWondering replied to georgiagail's response:
Do you really think I should?
 
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LonelyandWondering replied to rhondamay's response:
Easier said then done, why am I so blind?
 
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LonelyandWondering replied to hairyd's response:
Male stars? AS in he might be gay? The history I seen from porn on the computer was, BBW's or teen masterbation.
 
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LonelyandWondering responded:
I was going to go down on him again today. The redness and bloody part has healed up to a scab now, kind of a wierd brownish , greenish, scab all around half his penis at the top. Could that really be from masterbating?? I am getting worried now. Surely he wouldnt use unprotected sex with random people. Oh my goodness.
 
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fcl replied to LonelyandWondering's response:
Tell me. How can you love someone who disrespects you, cheats on you, won't have sex with you, will have sex with others? Have you no self-respect at all?
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
 
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fcl replied to LonelyandWondering's response:
Do you really need to ask that question?
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
 
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hairyd replied to fcl's response:
All the statements are true. But you must ask yourself are you better with or with him. Love is blind. Some have better sex with the ex after a divorce. I would ask him to go with you to be test for STD. If he has only JO. He should have a issue. He needs to have a doctor check his penis. Infections could cause major damage.
Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
 
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LonelyandWondering replied to hairyd's response:
I will ask him, oh lord. Will let you guys know how it goes. Thank you for everyone taking the time to respond.


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