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3butterflywings posted:

I was married (am now divorced) to my husband for 10.5 years, knew him for 15 years. He was emotionally and sexually abusive, something I didn't realize or understand but am now trying to come to terms with.
I have no interest in sex and am ok with that, but I am also unable to go to the gynecologist for my yearly checkup. I haven't gone in about 2.5 years and will eventually have to figure out a way back so I can get a yearly check-up and mammogram.
I think I'm just looking for some support, someone who may understand and be able to give some advice.
Thank you.

3 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:sexual abuseI was married (am now divorced) to my husband for 10.5 years, knew him for 15 years. He was emotionally and sexually abusive, something I didn't realize or understand but am now trying to come to terms with.<br />I have no interest in sex and am ok with that, but I am also unable to go to the gynecologist for my yearly checkup. I haven't gone in about 2.5 years and will eventually have to figure out a way back so I can get a yearly check-up and mammogram. <br />I think I'm just looking for some support, someone who may understand and be able to give some advice.<br />Thank you.

An_240941 responded:

I wish I had something I could say to you to make this all easier, but I really don't know what to say in this circumstance. I'm so proud of you & happy for you that you were able to get yourself out of a bad situation. It's not easy for most women to do. It takes a lot of strength emotionally & mentally to get yourself away from something like that. I hope things get easier for you from here.

Report This| Share this:sexual abuseI wish I had something I could say to you to make this all easier, but I really don't know what to say in this circumstance. I'm so proud of you & happy for you that you were able to get yourself out of a bad situation. It's not easy for most women to do. It takes a lot of strength emotionally & mentally to get yourself away from something like that. I hope things get easier for you from here.

3butterflywings replied to An_240941's response:

Thank you - I appreciate your response. I am getting stronger and doing better. I just still have these hurdles I'd like to get past.

Report This| Share this:sexual abuseThank you - I appreciate your response. I am getting stronger and doing better. I just still have these hurdles I'd like to get past.

An_240941 replied to 3butterflywings's response:

Your welcome. I'm sure you will. These things take time. Just take it one step at a time & one day at a time & I think you'll be alright. My mom had to go to a battered women's shelter for help when she left her 1st husband. He would beat her & rape her & emotionally & mentally abuse her. It was pretty much everything. It was really hard for her to get out especially with no where to turn. This place really helped her out. They gave her free counseling & all sorts of stuff. She didn't have to move in there thankfully, but they still helped her. It took a long time for her to stop being afraid & stop looking over her shoulder in fear of him coming after her. You're not alone. Other women out there will know exactly how you feel. Just take it slow. I'm here if you need to vent.

Report This| Share this:sexual abuseYour welcome. I'm sure you will. These things take time. Just take it one step at a time & one day at a time & I think you'll be alright. My mom had to go to a battered women's shelter for help when she left her 1st husband. He would beat her & rape her & emotionally & mentally abuse her. It was pretty much everything. It was really hard for her to get out especially with no where to turn. This place really helped her out. They gave her free counseling & all sorts of stuff. She didn't have to move in there thankfully, but they still helped her. It took a long time for her to stop being afraid & stop looking over her shoulder in fear of him coming after her. You're not alone. Other women out there will know exactly how you feel. Just take it slow. I'm here if you need to vent.

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