New mother that's not getting sex
An_246265 posted:
It's always amusing to read the posts from woman that claim their man isn't interested in sex. Guys you are my heroes. As a 50-year old male who has always been physical fit, gainfully employed, at least 50% engaged in all household chores, and as turned-on by my woman as the day I met her, I firmly believe that sex is at the bottom of the list of needs for most woman - they're like sexual camels.
It's insulting to men when we have to explain to our girl what it takes to keep us happy. Woman know exactly how to excite us when they are trying to hook us. Mostly, the female just has to show up. However, as we mature, we become insulted when we are made to feel that making love to us is just another chore - done to placate, and keep the piece. Don't then add insult to injury by describinhg the act as "making love".
There is no way that the sexual enhancement stuff marketed to men is for "making love to their woman when the time is right" - a daily pill when she might actually show up ready to orgasm once a month? This type of aid has to be for the guys chasing young girls.
I asked my doctor for something to help me loose interest in sex - he laughed, but i wasn't kidding. I love my wife and I am monogamous, so I will live the rest of my life sexually frustrated. Instead of going to bed, I play my guitar for hours.
With respect to porn, men do not look at it to drool over the ideal body. They are usually filling a void in their life. Personally, I find it depressing because it presents the idea that there are large numbers of woman "who are really in to it".
Young men really need to understand the data on sexual dysfunction in woman - it's mainly lack of desire.
Oh, and by the way, my wife is 10 years my junior, so who knows what's in store for us when menopause hits.
It's insulting to men when we have to explain to our girl what it takes to keep us happy. Woman know exactly how to excite us when they are trying to hook us. Mostly, the female just has to show up. However, as we mature, we become insulted when we are made to feel that making love to us is just another chore - done to placate, and keep the piece. Don't then add insult to injury by describinhg the act as "making love".
There is no way that the sexual enhancement stuff marketed to men is for "making love to their woman when the time is right" - a daily pill when she might actually show up ready to orgasm once a month? This type of aid has to be for the guys chasing young girls.
I asked my doctor for something to help me loose interest in sex - he laughed, but i wasn't kidding. I love my wife and I am monogamous, so I will live the rest of my life sexually frustrated. Instead of going to bed, I play my guitar for hours.
With respect to porn, men do not look at it to drool over the ideal body. They are usually filling a void in their life. Personally, I find it depressing because it presents the idea that there are large numbers of woman "who are really in to it".
Young men really need to understand the data on sexual dysfunction in woman - it's mainly lack of desire.
Oh, and by the way, my wife is 10 years my junior, so who knows what's in store for us when menopause hits.
2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:New mother that's not getting sexIt's always amusing to read the posts from woman that claim their man isn't interested in sex. Guys you are my heroes. As a 50-year old male who has always been physical fit, gainfully employed, at least 50% engaged in all household chores, and as turned-on by my woman as the day I met her, I firmly believe that sex is at the bottom of the list of needs for most woman - they're like sexual camels.<br /> It's insulting to men when we have to explain to our girl what it takes to keep us happy. Woman know exactly how to excite us when they are trying to hook us. Mostly, the female just has to show up. However, as we mature, we become insulted when we are made to feel that making love to us is just another chore - done to placate, and keep the piece. Don't then add insult to injury by describinhg the act as "making love".<br /> There is no way that the sexual enhancement stuff marketed to men is for "making love to their woman when the time is right" - a daily pill when she might actually show up ready to orgasm once a month? This type of aid has to be for the guys chasing young girls. <br /> I asked my doctor for something to help me loose interest in sex - he laughed, but i wasn't kidding. I love my wife and I am monogamous, so I will live the rest of my life sexually frustrated. Instead of going to bed, I play my guitar for hours.<br /> With respect to porn, men do not look at it to drool over the ideal body. They are usually filling a void in their life. Personally, I find it depressing because it presents the idea that there are large numbers of woman "who are really in to it". <br /> Young men really need to understand the data on sexual dysfunction in woman - it's mainly lack of desire.<br /> Oh, and by the way, my wife is 10 years my junior, so who knows what's in store for us when menopause hits.<br /><br />
Rhondamay responded:
You are painting women with a very broad brush. Sure, there are many women with low libidos, but there are also men with little interest in sex. I have gal friends that have no interest in sex from years and tears of loneliness while being in an otherwise compatible marriage. Getting their mind off it is better than enduring the sexual frustration; after a while you don't miss it. Mismatched libidos are common. During our twenties I had trouble keeping up with my guy. I caught up with him and passed him in our late thirties and didn't fall behind again until menopause. Now in our fifties we are closely matched and enjoying a very active sex life. I don't dispute your situation but it is not universal.
Report This| Share this:New mother that's not getting sexYou are painting women with a very broad brush. Sure, there are many women with low libidos, but there are also men with little interest in sex. I have gal friends that have no interest in sex from years and tears of loneliness while being in an otherwise compatible marriage. Getting their mind off it is better than enduring the sexual frustration; after a while you don't miss it. Mismatched libidos are common. During our twenties I had trouble keeping up with my guy. I caught up with him and passed him in our late thirties and didn't fall behind again until menopause. Now in our fifties we are closely matched and enjoying a very active sex life. I don't dispute your situation but it is not universal.<br />
I dont find it amusing that a relationship that has thrived with sexual encounters has basically went to nothing and if a guy is more intrested in porn means the woman isnt doing her part to tantilize her partner and in turn feeling less than adequate in her partners eyes. I think that your belief that woman hold sex at the bottom of your list hasnt honestly been talking to many women then cause i know alot of women that hold sex alot higher than what you are stating. I guess i have to realize that you are 21 years older than myself and i believe that sex in a relationship is very important especially when you are in your 20's. I dont use sex as a way to placate anything in my relationship. I like to feel close to my significant other after a long day at my full time job and after taking care of my 3 month old daughter yes i am a new mother. And i still consider sex to be a very important part in a relationship if you feel that i am wrong please explain to me why i am in the wrong. You might be able to go without sex in your relationship but dont think the rest of the world agrees with your way of thinking cause alot of people like to have sex. Dont put the women that like to in that category that should have it on the bottom of their lists.
Report This| Share this:New mother that's not getting sexI dont find it amusing that a relationship that has thrived with sexual encounters has basically went to nothing and if a guy is more intrested in porn means the woman isnt doing her part to tantilize her partner and in turn feeling less than adequate in her partners eyes. I think that your belief that woman hold sex at the bottom of your list hasnt honestly been talking to many women then cause i know alot of women that hold sex alot higher than what you are stating. I guess i have to realize that you are 21 years older than myself and i believe that sex in a relationship is very important especially when you are in your 20's. I dont use sex as a way to placate anything in my relationship. I like to feel close to my significant other after a long day at my full time job and after taking care of my 3 month old daughter yes i am a new mother. And i still consider sex to be a very important part in a relationship if you feel that i am wrong please explain to me why i am in the wrong. You might be able to go without sex in your relationship but dont think the rest of the world agrees with your way of thinking cause alot of people like to have sex. Dont put the women that like to in that category that should have it on the bottom of their lists.
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