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reb052000 posted:
Fighting a problem that is putting a strain on our marriage. I am 59 yrs old and wife is 56. After she went through her menapause, she has lost all interest in being close and or having any physical contact with me . in the last two years we have made love 3 times.Twice after the first year and six months after that.
I love to touch and hold a woman,even if it does not turn into a full time of love making.
I have ask numerous times what she expects out of me and if she even wants to be close and she answers that she does not know and is not interested in affection.
I have thought about cheating but have not,but really looking for some advise with my problem.. Thanks in advance.
4 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Sex and relationship after menapauseFighting a problem that is putting a strain on our marriage. I am 59 yrs old and wife is 56. After she went through her menapause, she has lost all interest in being close and or having any physical contact with me . in the last two years we have made love 3 times.Twice after the first year and six months after that. <br />I love to touch and hold a woman,even if it does not turn into a full time of love making.<br />I have ask numerous times what she expects out of me and if she even wants to be close and she answers that she does not know and is not interested in affection.<br />I have thought about cheating but have not,but really looking for some advise with my problem.. Thanks in advance.
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georgiagail responded:
It is, unfortunately, not unusual that menopause can have a profound effect on decreasing the libido in a woman. Lack of interest coupled with thin vaginal membranes and a decrease in the amount of lubrication produced during arousal (making actual intercourse painful) can be common side effects of menopause.

Often therapy to replace the hormones lost in menopause can do much to reverse this.

Is your wife on hormone replacement therapy and if not, is she willing to consider this to improve the issue between the two of you?

Gail
Report This| Share this:Sex and relationship after menapauseIt is, unfortunately, not unusual that menopause can have a profound effect on decreasing the libido in a woman. Lack of interest coupled with thin vaginal membranes and a decrease in the amount of lubrication produced during arousal (making actual intercourse painful) can be common side effects of menopause.<br /> <br /> Often therapy to replace the hormones lost in menopause can do much to reverse this.<br /> <br />Is your wife on hormone replacement therapy and if not, is she willing to consider this to improve the issue between the two of you?<br /><br />Gail
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reb052000 replied to georgiagail's response:
She has used hormone replacements for a short time. Then went off the medication.
She says and acts like when we do make love that she does enjoy it, and during intercourse there is definitly not a problem with lubrication. She also climaxes multiple times .
She just says it does no interest her any more.
I miss the affection more than the sex.
Report This| Share this:Sex and relationship after menapauseShe has used hormone replacements for a short time. Then went off the medication. <br />She says and acts like when we do make love that she does enjoy it, and during intercourse there is definitly not a problem with lubrication. She also climaxes multiple times .<br />She just says it does no interest her any more.<br />I miss the affection more than the sex.
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georgiagail replied to reb052000's response:
Her body decreasing specific hormones during menopause is the cause of her lack of interest. This does not mean one cannot enjoy intimacy when it occurs but rather that the need/desire to engage in this is no longer present.

Her concern may be that your touching and holding her is simply foreplay that is supposed to lead to sexual intimacy.

Gail
Report This| Share this:Sex and relationship after menapauseHer body decreasing specific hormones during menopause is the cause of her lack of interest. This does not mean one cannot enjoy intimacy when it occurs but rather that the need/desire to engage in this is no longer present.<br /> <br />Her concern may be that your touching and holding her is simply foreplay that is supposed to lead to sexual intimacy.<br /><br />Gail
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reb052000 replied to georgiagail's response:
Thank you for your advise and opinions. Will have to see how things go from here.
Report This| Share this:Sex and relationship after menapauseThank you for your advise and opinions. Will have to see how things go from here.
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