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    Menopause and Sex
    Petlady1106 posted:
    I am almost 53 and female who is going through menopause, I am
    having issues with my sex drive or libido. My husband recently
    purchased me a vibrator to see if that would help. My problem is I have
    tried one before and I don't know how to relax and to use my
    imagination while using it, also I am nervous or feel a little embarrassed by doing it or even talking about it. How do I overcome
    these issues and relax more so that I can make a better loving partner for my husband. I have never been in this type of relationship before.
    I feel very inadequite.

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    How do I overcome being embarrassed to talk to my husband about the sex toy he purchased for me to help my low sex drive while I am going
    through menopause? I am not experienced with this type of situation.
    • Refer to a dr.
    • Talk to someone else.
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    georgiagail responded:
    Try experimenting with the vibrator by yourself through masturbation.


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