Confused with boyfriend
rwood1987 posted:
I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3.5 years and did not know he was consistently watching porn until a few months ago. I at first reacted immaturely assumed he was more attracted to nasty porn stars than me when in reality every guy watches porn.
However, the odd/concerning part is that the only porn he seemed to be watching was anal sex. We do not have anal sex and from what he has said, he has absolutely 0 urge to have anal sex. I guess I am at a loss, I am not sure if men watch porn that is interesting but they would never do or if my boyfriend will not open up about what he does want sexually. Sex typically hurts for me so we don't have it that often, but I still find this to be confusing. If anyone has any advice or help it would be much appreciated!
~*R*~
However, the odd/concerning part is that the only porn he seemed to be watching was anal sex. We do not have anal sex and from what he has said, he has absolutely 0 urge to have anal sex. I guess I am at a loss, I am not sure if men watch porn that is interesting but they would never do or if my boyfriend will not open up about what he does want sexually. Sex typically hurts for me so we don't have it that often, but I still find this to be confusing. If anyone has any advice or help it would be much appreciated!
~*R*~
15 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendI have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3.5 years and did not know he was consistently watching porn until a few months ago. I at first reacted immaturely assumed he was more attracted to nasty porn stars than me when in reality every guy watches porn. <br /><br />However, the odd/concerning part is that the only porn he seemed to be watching was anal sex. We do not have anal sex and from what he has said, he has absolutely 0 urge to have anal sex. I guess I am at a loss, I am not sure if men watch porn that is interesting but they would never do or if my boyfriend will not open up about what he does want sexually. Sex typically hurts for me so we don't have it that often, but I still find this to be confusing. If anyone has any advice or help it would be much appreciated!<br /><br />~*R*~
DfromSpencer responded:
I thought i had replied to this post befor, but its not here. So. Your boyfriend watching this particular type of porn could mean nothing? He may just like a nice ass? Like me, i love a nice butt! I have watched anal porn, for that reason. I am not all that into it, tho.
His refusal to talk to you about it may be because it embarrasses him? You need to assure him its nothing big. If you hurt every time you have sex, perhaps anal sex could be your answer? If you are open to trying to better the sex between you, talk to your boyfriend. Or better yet, surprise him with it.
Best of luck to you!
Dennis
His refusal to talk to you about it may be because it embarrasses him? You need to assure him its nothing big. If you hurt every time you have sex, perhaps anal sex could be your answer? If you are open to trying to better the sex between you, talk to your boyfriend. Or better yet, surprise him with it.
Best of luck to you!
Dennis
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendI thought i had replied to this post befor, but its not here. So. Your boyfriend watching this particular type of porn could mean nothing? He may just like a nice ass? Like me, i love a nice butt! I have watched anal porn, for that reason. I am not all that into it, tho. <br /> <br />His refusal to talk to you about it may be because it embarrasses him? You need to assure him its nothing big. If you hurt every time you have sex, perhaps anal sex could be your answer? If you are open to trying to better the sex between you, talk to your boyfriend. Or better yet, surprise him with it.<br /> <br />Best of luck to you!<br /> <br />Dennis
HairyD replied to DfromSpencer's response:
DS, my comments are also deleted.
Some kids never grow up. " "I am going to tell on you"
"That Life" Someone disagrees. I prefer not to edit another's comments. But make my comments. You know age does not make you a Man Or a Lady.
Some kids never grow up. " "I am going to tell on you"
"That Life" Someone disagrees. I prefer not to edit another's comments. But make my comments. You know age does not make you a Man Or a Lady.
Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendDS, my comments are also deleted. <br />Some kids never grow up. " "I am going to tell on you" <br /> "That Life" Someone disagrees. I prefer not to edit another's comments. But make my comments. You know age does not make you a Man Or a Lady.
DfromSpencer replied to HairyD's response:
@HairyD
You got that right!!! How else could you explain missing posts? Some people will never grow up. Pittiful!
You got that right!!! How else could you explain missing posts? Some people will never grow up. Pittiful!
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriend@HairyD<br /> <br />You got that right!!! How else could you explain missing posts? Some people will never grow up. Pittiful!
FCL replied to DfromSpencer's response:
Actually, there may be no reason to take offence. If you answered a post that was deemed offensive and deleted, no matter how correct yours was, yours will be deleted with it because it's part of the "thread" from it.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendActually, there may be no reason to take offence. If you answered a post that was deemed offensive and deleted, no matter how correct yours was, yours will be deleted with it because it's part of the "thread" from it.
PS - also consider that a post is only deleted if it does not comply with the community rules (not just because someone who didn't like your opinion complained). If you remain within those rules you have nothing to fear.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendPS - also consider that a post is only deleted if it does not comply with the community rules (not just because someone who didn't like your opinion complained). If you remain within those rules you have nothing to fear.
tlkittycat1968 responded:
He's probably telling the truth about not being interested in having anal sex. I like watching two guys with one girl when both guys are focusing on the girl but that doesn't mean I actually want to have sex with two guys.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendHe's probably telling the truth about not being interested in having anal sex. I like watching two guys with one girl when both guys are focusing on the girl but that doesn't mean I actually want to have sex with two guys.
FCL, I disagree with you comments. If the Rules give me that right. I have been a reader before the old boards were removed. It is selected which comments are delected>>>>>
I have had two pic removed both above the waist and comments. The site is listed for 14 years of age up. We all do not have a formal education The site is to HELP and give OPTIONS. Should we not talk in their lanuage. Anyone can get a MEDICAL BOOK.
I am offended by some comments; but this is America.
If you read another's experience; and it help you be a Better Person. Super! If you read another's comment and disagree that will not be for you Super! Life is learning.....
I understand why there is limited posting . Every day I question if I will return to post. But maybe one person will enjoy sex more, enjoy make another person happy; or enjoy Life each day because something I said. I shared the truth of my life; sometimes to much. But if it makes a person THINK
< Laugh >, or Question if they could be a better Person. My few minutes was well spent.
I have had two pic removed both above the waist and comments. The site is listed for 14 years of age up. We all do not have a formal education The site is to HELP and give OPTIONS. Should we not talk in their lanuage. Anyone can get a MEDICAL BOOK.
I am offended by some comments; but this is America.
If you read another's experience; and it help you be a Better Person. Super! If you read another's comment and disagree that will not be for you Super! Life is learning.....
I understand why there is limited posting . Every day I question if I will return to post. But maybe one person will enjoy sex more, enjoy make another person happy; or enjoy Life each day because something I said. I shared the truth of my life; sometimes to much. But if it makes a person THINK
< Laugh >, or Question if they could be a better Person. My few minutes was well spent.
Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendFCL, I disagree with you comments. If the Rules give me that right. I have been a reader before the old boards were removed. It is selected which comments are delected>>>>><br /> <br /> I have had two pic removed both above the waist and comments. The site is listed for 14 years of age up. We all do not have a formal education The site is to HELP and give OPTIONS. Should we not talk in their lanuage. Anyone can get a MEDICAL BOOK.<br /> <br /> I am offended by some comments; but this is America.<br />If you read another's experience; and it help you be a Better Person. Super! If you read another's comment and disagree that will not be for you Super! Life is learning..... <br /> <br /> <br /> I understand why there is limited posting . Every day I question if I will return to post. But maybe one person will enjoy sex more, enjoy make another person happy; or enjoy Life each day because something I said. I shared the truth of my life; sometimes to much. But if it makes a person THINK<br />< Laugh >, or Question if they could be a better Person. My few minutes was well spent.
Well, when I first came here slang terms for body parts and sexual acts were not allowed at all. It took forever to be allowed to use the expression "bj" ...
However, my point was mainly that you can get deleted because of the post that you're responding to getting deleted. I don't know what part of that you find offensive since it has nothing to do with the content of your post but that of another. You get thrown out with the bathwater so to speak.
However, my point was mainly that you can get deleted because of the post that you're responding to getting deleted. I don't know what part of that you find offensive since it has nothing to do with the content of your post but that of another. You get thrown out with the bathwater so to speak.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendWell, when I first came here slang terms for body parts and sexual acts were not allowed at all. It took forever to be allowed to use the expression "bj" ... <br /> <br />However, my point was mainly that you can get deleted because of the post that you're responding to getting deleted. I don't know what part of that you find offensive since it has nothing to do with the content of your post but that of another. You get thrown out with the bathwater so to speak.
DfromSpencer replied to FCL's response:
I don't get that? I answered the post, i said nothing offensive, or threatening. It is basically the same thing i said, that IS still there. This happened on another question, again nothing sexual, threatening, or offensive. So, why would it be deleted?
I believe like Hairy does, if it helps someone, great. If they don't like it, still, they may learn from it? Everyone has the right to their own opinion. Everyone has the right to free speach. This is still America, right?
I'm wondering if it might be a bug in the system? Then again, this has only happened to me twice. I just don't know?
Have a great day, all!!!!!
D.
I believe like Hairy does, if it helps someone, great. If they don't like it, still, they may learn from it? Everyone has the right to their own opinion. Everyone has the right to free speach. This is still America, right?
I'm wondering if it might be a bug in the system? Then again, this has only happened to me twice. I just don't know?
Have a great day, all!!!!!
D.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendI don't get that? I answered the post, i said nothing offensive, or threatening. It is basically the same thing i said, that IS still there. This happened on another question, again nothing sexual, threatening, or offensive. So, why would it be deleted?<br /> <br />I believe like Hairy does, if it helps someone, great. If they don't like it, still, they may learn from it? Everyone has the right to their own opinion. Everyone has the right to free speach. This is still America, right?<br /> <br />I'm wondering if it might be a bug in the system? Then again, this has only happened to me twice. I just don't know?<br /> <br />Have a great day, all!!!!!<br />D.
FCL replied to DfromSpencer's response:
I'm thinking that I maybe wasn't clear - if you answer an answer (and not just the post) that gets deleted yours will be deleted too.
Example: Poster A writes a question, Poster B tells Poster A they're a moron for asking the question, you answer Poster B and tell him to cool it and also to five Poster A the information they seek (in the same message), I answer Poster A with the info. OK, Poster B will probably be deleted for attacking another poster and your post will go too because it was connected to Poster B's one. Mine will remain because it wasn't in any way connected to the deleted post.
Does that help you understand that it may not be anything that you said that got you deleted?
Example: Poster A writes a question, Poster B tells Poster A they're a moron for asking the question, you answer Poster B and tell him to cool it and also to five Poster A the information they seek (in the same message), I answer Poster A with the info. OK, Poster B will probably be deleted for attacking another poster and your post will go too because it was connected to Poster B's one. Mine will remain because it wasn't in any way connected to the deleted post.
Does that help you understand that it may not be anything that you said that got you deleted?
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendI'm thinking that I maybe wasn't clear - if you answer an answer (and not just the post) that gets deleted yours will be deleted too. <br /> <br />Example: Poster A writes a question, Poster B tells Poster A they're a moron for asking the question, you answer Poster B and tell him to cool it and also to five Poster A the information they seek (in the same message), I answer Poster A with the info. OK, Poster B will probably be deleted for attacking another poster and your post will go too because it was connected to Poster B's one. Mine will remain because it wasn't in any way connected to the deleted post.<br /> <br />Does that help you understand that it may not be anything that you said that got you deleted?
PS - Did either of you contact WebMD to find out why you were deleted?If not, you might consider doing so. The address is:
webmdcommunity@webmd.net
webmdcommunity@webmd.net
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendPS - Did either of you contact WebMD to find out why you were deleted?If not, you might consider doing so. The address is:<br /> <br /><a rel="nofollow" href="mailto:webmdcommunity@webmd.net">webmdcommunity@webmd.net</a>
Yes, When they sent me a email. That my pic was removed because of nudity. I asked when was a male face and chest consider public nudity? Its been months no reply! That twice they removed my pic. But have you viewed other pic? I thread on MSI had been on for 2 years. I made a comment it'S gone. The words are the same for 2 years.
Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendYes, When they sent me a email. That my pic was removed because of nudity. I asked when was a male face and chest consider public nudity? Its been months no reply! That twice they removed my pic. But have you viewed other pic? I thread on MSI had been on for 2 years. I made a comment it'S gone. The words are the same for 2 years.
I understand you being annoyed about that - I can't see how it could have been considered nudity (especially when you see some of the pics on the men's board where nudity is taken far enough to see their pubes ... OTOH, there seems to have been a lot of deletion there recently too). Maybe you were caught up in the herd effect over there - they shot all of you because it was easier than defining where nudity stopped?
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendI understand you being annoyed about that - I can't see how it could have been considered nudity (especially when you see some of the pics on the men's board where nudity is taken far enough to see their pubes ... OTOH, there seems to have been a lot of deletion there recently too). Maybe you were caught up in the herd effect over there - they shot all of you because it was easier than defining where nudity stopped?
DfromSpencer replied to FCL's response:
Hi, FCL
I believe my problem is different? I responded to the poster above, mine was the very first response. The words i posted were very like the ones above. Nothing derogatory, no nudity, nothing. I clicked on "View Your Reponse", and there it was.
The next day, i see there was no reponse to the poster above. What? Why? How does that happen? The very same thing happened before, on another site, where i was the first response. Again, nothing derogatory, or anything, to give anyone reason to delete this.
Therefore; i am thinking "BUG" in the system? I don't know? There is no other reason i can think of? And no, i haven't e-mailed my question to them. I figured someone else who has had this happen to them, would know the answer.
Thank you for trying, FCL! It looks like i may have to ask WebMD themselves?
Have a great day, everyone!!!!
D.
I believe my problem is different? I responded to the poster above, mine was the very first response. The words i posted were very like the ones above. Nothing derogatory, no nudity, nothing. I clicked on "View Your Reponse", and there it was.
The next day, i see there was no reponse to the poster above. What? Why? How does that happen? The very same thing happened before, on another site, where i was the first response. Again, nothing derogatory, or anything, to give anyone reason to delete this.
Therefore; i am thinking "BUG" in the system? I don't know? There is no other reason i can think of? And no, i haven't e-mailed my question to them. I figured someone else who has had this happen to them, would know the answer.
Thank you for trying, FCL! It looks like i may have to ask WebMD themselves?
Have a great day, everyone!!!!
D.
Report This| Share this:Confused with boyfriendHi, FCL<br /> <br />I believe my problem is different? I responded to the poster above, mine was the very first response. The words i posted were very like the ones above. Nothing derogatory, no nudity, nothing. I clicked on "View Your Reponse", and there it was.<br /> <br />The next day, i see there was no reponse to the poster above. What? Why? How does that happen? The very same thing happened before, on another site, where i was the first response. Again, nothing derogatory, or anything, to give anyone reason to delete this.<br /> <br />Therefore; i am thinking "BUG" in the system? I don't know? There is no other reason i can think of? And no, i haven't e-mailed my question to them. I figured someone else who has had this happen to them, would know the answer.<br /> <br />Thank you for trying, FCL! It looks like i may have to ask WebMD themselves?<br /> <br />Have a great day, everyone!!!!<br /> <br />D.
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