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Let me fill you in a little about myself on said topic. I lost my virginity at a young age, to a total a**. Even though he denied it, my and his best friend were pretty sure I was his first too, It definitely seemed like it! Any way. I had no clue what to do, and I was put on top. So it didn't go very well. Ever since that one time he constantly made fun of me, and put me down for it. So whenever I've been in a situation when I'm suppose to do all the work, I get super embarrassed and scared and freeze up. I've had four partners by the way. I've recently over come that, and am with someone I can be comfortable with sexually. So I WANT to do the work, I want him to tell me what he does, and doesn't like. Problem is, he can never "get into it" if he's not doing the work. There has been a time or two he has relaxed and just let me do my thing, but usually he interrupts, and can't keep from thrusting. He also has some issues were he won't let me be dominate, like iniciating sex. I wonder if it has to do with that? Usually if I just put myself on top, he won't say anything and go with it. But the last time I tried that, he stopped and said: oh I was just going to..... I've tried asking him what he likes, or someone I can do, change, etc. all he says is, "I like everything you do." I'm at a point of being completely bored with sex. Mostly cause I never get to do anything! And I told him this recently.

I don't know what to do!? We've done dress up, watching porn, all different kinds of positions, locations, toys, etc.