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    KarissaKryptic posted:
    I'm 16 I lost my vriginity when I was 14 but I was not ready at all and I only had sex one time after that and I bled a lot.... I hadn't had sex since then until last weekend I had sex Andre was bigger than the guy do first had sex with. after a bit the condom broke but we noticed right away so this isn't about pregnancy. I was in a bunch of pain afterwards it hurt to move and I cried. I don't know what to do I'm afraid I messed something up because I know I should be in that much pain it hurts for days that was on Sunday and today Is Friday I'm still in pain. Can anyone give me advice of what to do? My mom knows so its not a secret but I'm scared
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    ontbear responded:
    Have your mon take you to the doctor and get some information the medical profession can offer
     
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    dfromspencer responded:
    Hi, Karissa

    Have your mother drive you to the doctors office, and tell the M.D. exactly what you have said here. You need a professional to advise you, or to even help you! Don't put it off any longer, as the damage may become permanent? You don't want that, do you? Now get going!!!

    Please let us know what the doctor finds out, would you? I am now very curious?

    Best of luck to you!!!

    Dennis
     
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    KarissaKryptic replied to dfromspencer's response:
    I haven't gone to the doctor but the pain stopped. My mother thinks its all because I'm just not hard to having sex and after waiting such a long time my body just never got used to it. Should I still talk to my doctor about it?
     
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    fcl replied to KarissaKryptic's response:
    What kind of pain was it? Internal? Vaginal? Lower abdomen? The chances are that, being on the large side, he bruised your cervix (this can cause a LOT of pain). The solution is for him not to thrust so hard AND to use positions that do not allow for deep penetration.

    There would be no harm in talking to your doctor about it.


    PS - you don't get "hard to having sex". Your vagina doesn't toughen up when you have sex nor tighten up when you don't. It's all generally a question of arousal ...
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
     
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    KarissaKryptic replied to dfromspencer's response:
    I went to the doctor and they said my vagina is rally tender and they said that if I'm not careful ill rip my skin
     
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    KarissaKryptic replied to fcl's response:
    What if I can't stand the thought of sex like I don't get turned on by that. I've never had an orgasm and sex has been a painful experience for me I honestly don't like sex? Is that normal? Is this some sort of phase teens go through? How can I fix this?
     
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    elle0317 replied to KarissaKryptic's response:
    Sounds like you are too young for sex right now or simply have the wrong partner...tbh sex is a big deal and should be with someone who is gentle, patient and willing to make sure you are totally aroused before having intercourse. The more aroused and wet you are, the less pain there will be. Is this a phase, yes it likely is, when first having sex it's a hit and miss type of thing until you get used to what you like and are able to express those wants to your partner. Have you tried masturbating to figure what turns you on?
     
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    dfromspencer replied to KarissaKryptic's response:
    Hi again Karissa,

    I am so glad you came back!!! So, the doc says you have a tender vagina? Ok, now, you have to be careful when/if you have sex again, that's all. Like Elle said, make sure you are good and aroused, and as wet as you can get. That would be a big help to anyone.

    As to your not liking sex, this could be because you never had a decent partner? Young boys, (yes, I was one, once) have no clue to what they are doing. They just get in there and thrust and thrust, thinking this is the right way to have sex. They probably have to go with what they saw on a porno, I did. When I met my wife, she laid down the law, so to speak, about this thrusting. She knew what she liked and told me. After that, it was smooth sailing!!!

    This is your life, and your body, you can do with it what you wish! If you never want sex again, well, you may be very lonely throughout your life? There are some, but not many guys who don't like sex. I think, if you just take your time, find the right guy, you can and will like sex again!

    I wish you all the luck!!!

    Dennis
     
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    KarissaKryptic replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Thank you very much
     
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    dfromspencer replied to KarissaKryptic's response:
    No prob, Karissa, please take care!!!

    Dennis


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