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Pain during anal sex
1986kjvn posted:

I'm 27 years old and I'm a bottom. The few times that I have had anal sex, getting past the first bit of pain of entering is ok, and usually not a problem. however, where I'm having a problem is, the guy that I have been with is approximately 7 to 8.5 inches in length and once he's in and past the pain the first 1-5 inches isn't painful, but once he thrusts deeper, there is a sharp pain in my bowel but deeper. I realize it has a 90 degree curve to it, we've slowed down to go a bit slower but maybe not slow enough? By this point it's to the point of not enjoyable for me and it just simply hurts. I've always experienced this problem even younger with my first boyfriend when I was 18-19 and the same thing happened then. I do yes tend to 'wipe' and 'push' too hard while going to the bathroom I'm guilty of that. Anyway, I guess my ultimate question is: am I doing something wrong? Am I not using enough lubrication? I always thought I used enough lubrication, but maybe not? Is there a way to somehow get past the pain? I'd like for sex to be enjoyable...Would going slow to get his **** to turn around the curve or more lubrication help? I've seen lots of guys in porn movies that take gigantic sizes and how I can't figure out why and I'm asking myself why because most of the bottoms are built like myself, 5'9 give or take, 160 pounds, defined body..Has anyone been through this before? Is there a way to somehow get it further in without creating a ton of pain? As I said, lots of guys are able to... so it's not impossible..
dfromspencer responded:
I don't know of any answer to that, other than see your doctor? The anus area you are talking about, is only a few inches deep, then you have the intestines, that is what you are trying to penetrate. I think it may be in your positioning? Try being on top, or on your side? Be creative, find something that works for you, and always take it slow!!!

Hope this helps?


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