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    What can I do so my girlfriend doesn't get freaked out by my "size"?
    RaulCaruso posted:
    I've had a few best friends which have gone the extra step with me but every one of them after a month or two want to have sex or a BJ and when the moment comes the relationship ends. It seems like all the girls I've been with go away because of my dick. I know there's nothing bad with it, no deformations or anything bad. I'm sure it's because of the size, which is 9.5 inches in length and 8 inches in girth. My longest relationship was 3 months long and with my actual girlfriend we're one week from our anniversary and she promised me our first time the night of the anniversary after a dinner and a movie. She's a virgin and I'm a virgin and I'm afraid she'll freak off that night and she's the only girl I've really fallen in love with. What can I do so she doesn't go away?

    Given that I don't know her vagina's size or preferences and she doesn't know my size(we're virgins), I don't know if to tell her or what to or in case it causes trouble. All my previous "girlfriends" didn't even ask me or said domething once they saw it, just dress up and go.
    sluggo45692 responded:
    Yea that's a good size penis. If she's talking about having sex with you and your both virgins, don't just spring this on her. Talk to her. Let her know you don't want to hurt her and make sure she see what's coming at her. If she really care and wants to have sex with you. make sure you have extra lube, take it slow, and DON'T try to put it all in her. She won't be a gf for long if you hurt her down there. Let her feel things before you go all the way. Better a case of blue balls, than hurting someone you like. Good Luck
    hairyd responded:
    Raul, look at a 2 liter soda bottle and soda can. I would like to know your age and country. It was foolish to let a naked female leave with out sex. Did you have blue balls?
    I don't know your culture but why do men think it fair if he pays for dinner and a movie. It is a swap for free sex.
    Caruso have you not pressed your groins against her thighs in a kiss. Letting her feel your hardness and desire for sex. Have they not see the lump of manhood in your pants?
    Raul this is not the time for a quickie before you take her home. I would order pizza delivery. Spend the time in long bath to relax her. You may watch some soft porn. You have to be able to turn her own. When her desire is to the point she can not and does not want to stop making LOVE>
    Caruso when you look down at your penis. You do not see the same view. One of my earlier lovers had me look at a 2 liter soda bottle it was also 12 inches in length. She then had me compare a soda bottle to my cock. The can was 5 inches high but the girth was about 9 inches.
    I have never had a female not accept me in her vaginal or oral. But you have to use Skill, be Caring, and make love with Passion.
    I would suggest you use a pre lubed sheep skin condom.
    Before you use your penis. Prepare her with your tongue and be able to insert three of your fingers without her being in pain.
    Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.
    SweetAnonymity responded:
    I agree with the first post. Make sure you talk to her and go slow. Lots of foreplay!!! It might take you a few times to get it all in.

    My bf is about your size, he took it slow the first time. Talked to me, made sure I was ok. And I LOVE his size, and now if we're in a rough/naughty mood he can just shove it in with minimal discomfort. But obviously since she is a virgin you'll have to be extra careful.

    There is nothing wrong with you, you're lucky! Just make sure you'll gentle and you'll have this girl hooked!
    RaulCaruso responded:
    Before the special day I talked with her and she accepted it, with a gulp. We had an awesome evening and by the half of the movie we we're already naughty. Back at home we had A LOT of foreplay(I won't be detailed) and she got extremely wet so we didn't use lube. Her mouth is very big though it doesn't look like it and she did *breath* wonderful. We took it slow and had a "great" time. She came four times, and we tried many positions. However, we couldn't do it fast so she made me cum with a BJ.

    Two days later we had sex again. However, after some time she got maybe a little TOO aroused and wanted to have sex fast(ignoring any pain) and I got driven by it. After her "adrenaline" wandered off and she came twice and me once, she couldn't stand the pain and turned into a huddle in the bed. So I spent a while comforting her and she couldn't walk well four a few hours.

    Now we have fun every once in a while. Thanks for the tips, they helped.

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