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    Anon_163259 posted:

    Wanted to see if other's have the same problem I have been going through, for years and even in my thirties , coming to quickly and keep it firm and going longer. This has been my problem and have talked to my medical doctor and has me on Cialis and 2.5 Androgel and sometimes I fill like it's a waste of money . The Cialis tried everyday use and 36 hour without any effects. You always see the photos online of guy's and their length and girth never seem to have that. Have also tried Viagra that and that has to many side effects, thinking about seeing a specialist a urologists and see what my options, so looking for other guy's with the same issues and see what they have done to help the problem.
    that4sure responded:
    talk to your doctor about trimix.
    stevesmw responded:
    You don't say how old you are or your general physical condition or any medications you are that may impact your erection.

    I had no ed issues until I was past 60. Every year there is some deterioration. I'm over weight and on bp meds and no ed meds or herbs get me anywhere like I use to be.

    PE is a sexual conditioning issue and complicated by difficulty sustaining an erection.
    Anon_475 responded:
    Frankly, I'd avise any man with this kind of problem to go straight to a urologist because most generalists really do not have the training to deal with this.
    kramer1961 responded:
    Lets start by pointing out that you're discussing 3 different problems, not just one. The first issue is premature ejaculation, the second is impotence, and the third is concern about your size.

    As another poster has pointed out, you really haven't given enough information about yourself and your condition.

    First off lets take the easy one: length and girth. You are what you are. Game over. There is no drug, no treatment, no herb. Full stop.

    Second, premature ejaculation. The way I handled this as a young man was to masturbate before I anticipated having sex. The second or third time around, depending on age usually results in more staying power. There are also physical techniques you can use to delay orgasm.

    I haven't tried the others, but when you take a larger dose of Viagra, often your erection is so firm, and so unyielding that it actually desensitizes. This causes many men, especially older men to take a lot longer to reach orgasm. Since viagra is an issue for you though, you might want to try some desensitizing creams. I might add that nice rubber condom often did the trick for me even when I was younger.

    fcl replied to kramer1961's response:
    Just a comment - if you do try desensitizing creams, remember to wear a condom because your partner probably won't want to be desensitized along with you
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    fcl replied to kramer1961's response:
    While I'm here, here are a few ideas that might help you last longer (or at least seem to):

  • First and foremost, masturbate before having sex. Hopefully this will delay your orgasm when you have sex with your partner.

  • You could give your partner an orgasm first either orally or manually before penetration.

  • If your partner is a woman, you could use a vibrator on her clitoris to make her orgasm faster.

  • Learning to breathe deeply through your nose might slow down your excitement and make you last longer.

  • Sometimes the choice of position can make a difference - men are less sensitive (and have less control) when the woman is on top. Try that.

  • Then there's the squeeze technique -

  • You can learn to do Kegels -

  • When you feels you're getting close you (or she) could press on your perineum.

    Gosh there must be hundreds more of this kind of technique. try them all but remember that some take a lot of regular work (like Kegels and the squeeze technique) so you need to be pretty dedicated to get results.

  • There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    stevesmw replied to fcl's response:
    Masturbation before sex didn't do me much good. It could help if you are so aroused that you might orgasm at entry.
    I tried desenthisizing creams or double condoms. I was dating two women; with one I used a condom and the other without. Their choice. I found that making love without a condom actually improved my ability to last longer and my PE was brought under control by having very frequent sex.

    The most important thing in solving your PE issues is and understanding partner who is willing to work with you on it.
    First time I had made love to a woman in a long time, I suggested woman on top which was fine until she got tired of it and it was game over. The longer you can last without orgasming and the longer your penis can get use to being very aroused and erect, the more control you will have. This means withdrawing, providing alternate stimulation, and reentering when you feel under control. If you can get to a point where you can last ten minutes, you can last an hour.

    The toughest situation is when in order to keep your erection you need to be very aroused and close to orgasming. This wasn't an issue for me until I was past sixty.
    kramer1961 replied to stevesmw's response:
    In my early 30's I found that I could cum first, and then stay inside her until I got a full erection again. Then I'd continue thrusting until she reached orgasm. As a rule, it was easier and quicker to regain an erection than to reach orgasm.

    I think the bottom line is that apart from seeking some sort of medical assistance, the original poster should work within his limitations and with his partner to find a way to please her and himself. In general, that plan is likely to include pleasing her before pleasing yourself.

    stevesmw replied to kramer1961's response:
    My personal experience is that the longer I was erect before orgasm the longer I remained hard after orgasm.
    I was not able to do what you were able to do. If I orgasmed rather quickly, I would not be able to maintain an erection without interruption. I did recover quickly.

    On my 50th birthday, I orgasmed after an extended period, surprisingly kept my erection and was able to continue.

    I had one experience with a new partner where I orgasmed rather quickly and attempted to continue and she was put off by it because I was struggling to maintain the erection rather than going at a pace that met her needs.
    kramer1961 replied to stevesmw's response:
    A Propos of nothing I suppose, I had an experience when I was about 22: I had 2 orgasms without a refractory period. I was trying very hard not to reach orgasm, but I did anyway, but it was a very small orgasm, and I found I retained my erection. I pressed ahead and had a more typical orgasm not long after.

    Years later that incident inspired me to look up multiple orgasms for men on the Internet. That is when I discovered tantric sex. I studied it, and by and by I found that I could manage two orgasms in a row. Theoretically, you can go on like that indefinitely, but the reality was that after the first orgasm, I simply never had the will power to hold back ejaculation on the second one (the important part of the technique) so that I could have a third. It really works and man is it ever powerful, but it takes a lot of practice and work...mostly kegels.

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