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    Sex question???
    An_254912 posted:
    So I'm 14 (female) and whenever I get "turned on" whether it from pornography or whatever I feel the urgent need to urinate. I usually have to stop watching porn and go to the bathroom to pee because I can't hold it in. And then when I get back and return to watching porn, the feeling to pee comes back. I'm afraid that in the future I can't have sex normally because I'll piss everywhere. Is this normal and/or is this because of puberty? Please help.
    An_252334 responded:
    Hi young lady,

    At 14 you "shouldn't" be watching porn. but I'm not going to harp on that. I am going to tell you that the buzzing or the urge to "pee" is normal when your sexually excited. Your clitorus is looking for stimulation. You can get that by uriniating or you rubbing your self.

    If your worried about peeing, pee before you get your self excited. After your excited, rub yourself. Being 14 your in the throws of puberity. Boys are going to look very good to you and you'll want them to touch you, like in the porn your watching.

    PLEASE remember, porn is not always good sex. Take it slow and you find out where your sexual buttons are. When you find out, then you can direct the YOUNG MEN where to touch you.

    PLEASE wait till your older. Sex is for making babies, not just for fun and feels good. Rub yourself and make your self happy first. I firmly believe masturbation is a wonderful experience. Do it often and enjoy it. You can't get pregnant masturbating.

    By the way, a lot of women are very wet when they are sexually stimulated. It's normal and men love it.

    Have fun
    elle0317 responded:
    I agree with the first poster, you should not be watching porn at such a young age. Most porn is geared towards men and their satisfaction only, this is not the type of sexual activity a young vulnerable woman should be watching. If you continue to watch porn, please try to find ones that are geared towards women.

    With that said, the urge to pee while masturbating is usually associated with the feeling just prior to an orgasm. Before you masturbate, empty your bladder and just go with the flow you may be pleasantly surprised.
    dfromspencer responded:
    Ok, now from a mans perspective!

    First, I sorta agree with the first posters, you should not be watching porn at your age?! However, since its clear you are, then use moderation, and find some appropriate to what your fantasies are!!!

    Next, your body is raging with hormones, and sexual urges. That IS perfectly normal! And yes, the boys will be looking pretty good to you now! You will want them touching you, but please, PLEASE wait till you are older, say 18ish??? You mom and dad will surely thank you for it! Masturbate. Masturbate till the cows come home! Oops, you probably don't know what that means? It means do it till you drop, how's that?

    This urge you get is normal, it means you are close to an orgasm, and if you haven't had one yet, get busy! An orgasm is the ultimate Ohhhh YESSSSSSS!!!!!! YESSSSSS!!!!!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!! Ah. See what I mean? No, well, you will if you keep masturbating till you have one!

    I wish you a very long and happy life, young lady!!!

    kramer1961 responded:
    I'm not even slightly interested in whether you view porn or not. That is your decision.

    On the issue of peeing, I can tell you that its fairly common for women to feel that way. First of all, women have bladders about the size of an acorn, so you pee a lot. That's why you have a line at the rest stops while we men are in an out in two ticks...that and you have to pee sitting down, which also slows the process down.

    A way around this is to cut down on drinking, especially caffeinated drinks, and give yourself a few hours without drinking before you masturbate. Then you'll be dryer. Even if you have to pee once, you should be good to go.

    Next consider, that you might not always be peeing. Some women ejaculate very much like a man does, and it apparently can feel a bit like peeing when you release. I had a girlfriend think she peed on me, but it wasn't pee. I know pee...that wasn't what it was. I've known several women who ejaculate, and my current partner is one of them, although in her case its more of a gush than a squirt. Both of my partners were embarrassed about it, and I assured both of them that it was not an issue, and that they should feel comfortable doing what their body tells them to.

    Finally, even if you are peeing during sex, you can put down a towel, and just go with it. Except and unless a guy is going down on you, its really not much of an issue.

    Now, if you start defecating during sex, you'll likely have a real problem

    An_254912 replied to An_252334's response:
    Thanks for your reply and your concerns. But I am a lesbian and am only interested in having relationships with women. I don't pleasure myself when I watch porn or anything. It's just kind of entertaining.
    An_252334 replied to An_254912's response:
    Then why watch it? I've seen tree snails with more entertainment value. I like watching the women and men, but it's for the stimulation images that most people watch it for. Of course some people finding a man nailing his scrotal sac to a board entertaining. What every your sexual preference is, enjoy it.
    kramer1961 replied to An_254912's response:
    I'd recommend something like, "The L Word" for entertainment value rather than pure porn. In any case, at the tender age of 14, any sexual issues will likely resolve themselves. Congratulations on figuring out your sexual orientation at such an early age.


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