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    My boyfriend has trouble ejaculating and sometimes getting fully hard.
    An_255547 posted:
    My boyfriend has trouble ejaculating and sometimes getting fully hard. Him and I both have very good sex drives. So it's not that he doesn't want it, it's just that sometimes he has trouble getting fully hard. It'll be an erection, but not as hard as it can get. And it seems that when it does get ''rock hard'' is when he can actually '''finish.'' the ratio of times he actually does climax compared to when he doesn't is way too off. We have great sex in terms of how it feels, but he gets very frustrated and upset when everything is going right yet he just doesn't climax. Is it normal for some guys to have such trouble, or should he get checked out? Please help!
    nohard responded:
    Hi, So just how old is you guy, if he's early fifty's, then this could be the problem, could ED starting,, do you know if he gets nocturnal erections or morning woods (erections), if yes then there is a good chance its not that bad.
    But there is help, he can either get erections drugs, or like me. I did through herbs and a hormone, see some of the drugs don't suit all men, and yes I was one. on franktalk I have some posts, but you can google them.
    Now most of the herbs I take are for the blood, its all down to getting our blood good, do that and he's almost there.
    With this your see I wear a cock ring, mines from your find its a bit explicit and I have a hardwear ice, and it works. if you do go that way your now see my screen name is NOWHARD.
    Your also see its not down to one herb, your see lots of guys say yer tried that or this, but we need a mix, with this he should be able to get an erection any time, unlike drugs which you need to take an hour before.
    Do hope you find some help, and yes its very frustrating for us men when we lose our erections.
    Good Luck
    dfromspencer responded:
    There is probably nothing to worry about, other than this worry over an erection, or so-so erection? Worry, stress, depression, there are a lot of things that could be behind this? If you want total peace of mind, talk to his doctor. Have him take blood tests for testosterone levels. If his doctor thinks it prudent, go see an Urologist?! The Urologist can pretty much pin point the problem, even if it is only minor blood vessel damage?

    In other words, get him to speak with his Primary Care Physician!!! Then, take it from there! I do believe he will be fine, and so will your love making!!!

    4defyinggravity replied to nohard's response:
    I'm so stupid I should have added this to the description:

    He's only 19. I've heard of older men having these problems but I've never heard of a 19 year old who has trouble climaxing. He gets morning wood every day. So it seems like his blood flow is perfectly fine I don't understand
    4defyinggravity replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Thanks, I agree!
    nohard replied to 4defyinggravity's response:
    Hi, Ok he gets morning erections, so that bit works.
    Do you know if he watch's porn, and masturbates to it, this could be a reason why he is not getting hard when it comes to sex, to much porn shuts down his sexual receptors, and by doing that he then cant the right reactions with you, and his ejeculating problems.
    Ok its just a theory, for this problem, but its a fact, and his way out would be to cut out the porn, completely lay of sex for a few weeks, say 4 to start, and take it from there.
    Do hope this hits a note.
    Good Luck
    nohard responded:
    Hi Even at 19 he can still try some of the herbs I'm on but he must not take the DHEA, its a hormone that at 19 his body should be chucking loads of it out.
    But try and find out if he's on porn, with masturbating, it does give lots of bad side effects.
    If you love this guy and can get on his computer, just install a parental porn lock.
    good luck
    4defyinggravity replied to nohard's response:
    That would make sense that that is the problem if he masturbated, and although this may sound hard to believe he doesn't. He's not into that, he's rather have me give him a hand job than jerk off on his own. So that theory is ruled out. /
    4defyinggravity replied to nohard's response:
    He doesn't masturbate, and thinks porn is gross. So that's not the problem.
    dfromspencer replied to 4defyinggravity's response:
    I stand by my first post, he should see his doctor! Its probably a phase, or something, but still? If you want to be sure, take him to the doctors!!!

    Good luck!!!

    nohard replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Hi Dennis, and I stand by what I say, Ok she's says he hates porn, but masturbating and over masturbating give these problems.
    Now there are a lot of guys out there who say masturbating never gives problems, sorry it gives guys loads of bad side effects, and from what she is saying, there all classic signs.
    And masturbating with a hard grip as a lot of guys do, means they cant ejaculate inside a women or have lots of problems doing so, a vagina just cant grip that way.
    At 19 his testosterone should be raging round his body unless he has had some real bad illness, of which she has not said.
    So for me he's a secret masturbator.
    dfromspencer replied to nohard's response:
    Hi Nowhard,

    I can agree with you on that! He must be a closet masturbator? His penis skin is not sensing her soft vagina, and therefore, the trouble! I have lived alone for a very, very long time now, and I can tell you, I have masturbated using a too firm grip, and lost my ability to orgasm, or, it took forever and a day?! As embarrassing as it was, I talked to my female doctor, and she told me to ease up on my grip! It worked, but I had to wait five or six weeks for my penis skin to even feel my light pressure!!!

    He needs to stop with the extra masturbation! Only allow her to do it, and he should return to normal in a few weeks?! He may even need to stop altogether, like I had to? No matter how it goes, he can, and will get back to normal! She really needs to talk to him!

    Nice to see you, Nowhard!!!

    billnjenn replied to 4defyinggravity's response:
    If he thinks porn is gross he might be gay.
    billnjenn replied to 4defyinggravity's response:
    When he gets a morning erection and you have sex does he have problems with climax? That might be a clue.

    Herbs are bunk. Tested and do nothing but steal your money and sometimes make you sick. If he is getting hard and is 19 he doesn't need that kind of help. Better to check with a doctor.

    Does he just have issues during intercourse? Or also when you perform oral or manually bring him to climax?
    nohard replied to billnjenn's response:
    Hi, So you keep saying herbs are a rip off yes, well I'm one person who will stand behind what I say, see Viagra did not work for me, just gave me high blood pressure, but herbs and a hormone worked wonders, its not down to just one herb, you need a mix, and each of are different, so the mix needs to be adjusted, then bingo, just as we were, sex anytime, the one thing Viagra wont do.
    If you must put herbs down, get your facts right

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