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    Pleasing the Wife..
    lovemyladyalways posted:
    I prefer to please the wife more so than receiving myself.
    My manhood does not ( fully ) co-operate so to speak.
    Doctor and Urologist can't help with my erection problem anymore.
    Tried pills and vacuum pump = no help either. Previous bout of
    cancer has taken its toll on me but I will not give up on my wife.
    How should I even start to discuss this feeling with her without
    making her feel sorry for me because I really enjoy pleasing her
    especially while giving her massages. I believe the old saying of
    marriage being in sickness & health, Twenty-six years together
    and still having her to cuddle makes this old man's life complete.
    Any suggestions to ease my wife's concerns of returning pleasure ?
    My manhood is not total dead but only rises for the occasion,
    occasionally - not very often to the point of release.
    nohard responded:
    Hi many years ago there was a mag called Forum, well it s now dead.
    But there is help at hand in the way of on there your find all the real help you will ever need in pleasing your wife, and her pleasing you, you should find more ideas than anyone on here could ever tell you, and you could also post to Dr Betty Dodson.
    As you have not said what cancer, have you thought of prostate massage, could help you get some extra erections.
    Do hope this helps in some way.
    Good Luck
    billnjenn responded:
    Glad to see you know that it can be better to give than receive and giving pleasure to someone you care about as enjoyable as getting it yourself. Let your wife that you pleasure her not only because she enjoys it but also because you enjoy it.
    The mind is the main sex organ and it continues to function after other parts may fail. Let her know your main sex organ is still being satisfied.
    An_256247 responded:
    ED pills work. You may try some ED drugs available today, such as this -

    But I strongly suggest you ask your doctor whether this medicine is okay for you to take. There are still other ED pills available out there, you just have to choose which one might be best for you.. Good luck!
    stevesmw responded:
    My most men like to have their penis fondled even if it doesn't result in an orgasm. This is one way your wife can return pleasure. Simultaneous pleasuring is not always a good idea. It is better for one person to concentrate on giving pleasure and the other on receiving it.

    Having your penis stimulated without worrying about needing to become erect, is less stressful and may overtime provide surprising results.
    lovemyladyalways responded:
    Not very wise about getting a prostate massage. Is it the same way that the doctor checks it ? How would I or wife do such an act while pleasing her or her pleasing me ?
    Would a plug serve the same purpose ?
    Sorry for all the questions.
    As for my cancer - it was bladder cancer that affected the
    prostate a bit also which left me at times incontinent.
    nohard replied to lovemyladyalways's response:
    Hi well if you want to give it a go try this link.
    You should find this helps you.
    And this is nothing like a doctors exam of the prostate.
    Good Luck
    kramer1961 replied to nohard's response:
    Others have handled the mechanics nicely, but with respect to talking to your wife, it seems to me that you already have just the right words. Just let her know that physical contact pleases you, and makes you feel loved as well as giving her pleasure.

    Too often women think of themselves as theme parks for their husbands, and have difficulty with the idea that their pleasure might be the point. Just be frank. I'm guessing you'll do fine, and if your Wife is the good match you think, she'll understand.

    lovemyladyalways replied to kramer1961's response:
    This WEB MD site has great information, especially this
    conversation with different people.
    As stated, My manhood does not rise to the occasion but the
    wife likes when I massage her and orally please her.
    My questions are that this Web MD site says that the
    average length for some men is a manhood about 5 - 6
    inches long. So why do the sex stores sell them at
    greater lengths of 8 to 12 inches ? Do ladies like them
    that long ? I seen some X-rated stuff with 2 women
    enjoying themselves with great delight using them.
    Is that an act ?
    or do women know how to pleasure themselves with such
    long lengths ? Have two smaller type vibrators, one
    smooth and the other with ridges about 6 " long but have
    never put them inside my wife to please her. I enjoy
    pleasing her orally but since man manhood doesn't work
    as well as it should, should I try using the vibrators like
    the two women I've seen ? Thanks for any advise !
    stevesmw replied to lovemyladyalways's response:
    Porn is not reality it is bad fantasy. I'm not completely up to speed on vibrators, but the Hitachi magic wand has been popular for a very long time and it isn't inserted into a vagina. Your fingers can be and they can move in a lot more ways than a piece of plastic.

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