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    My potential wife
    ben360 posted:
    Hi, I am having real issues with my partner who I plan to marry. From viewing photos on her facebook profile my partner doe's look rather close with a few guys in various photos. She doe's not have her phone active when I wish to get in contact. She often misses plans we had made or will turn up late from either 20 mins up to 1hr. I keep on suspecting she is cheating, her vagina tends to looks open and lose when in bed. However I'm not sure if this the right or wrong way to view this. I have looked on the web so much with similar signs that relate to females cheating. And I feel I may be getting cheated on! I really hope this is not the case. Please can you offer advice and also a site with images to view how vagina will look before and after sex.

    Thanks for the help.
    dfromspencer responded:

    Most times, when aroused, the vagina can indeed look this way! This does not mean she is cheating?! If you have this much doubt in her now, how are you going to feel a year from now, or maybe five years?

    You lack trust. This woman is with you, not these other guys, right? Well then, why can't you trust her? Has she shown you any reason to doubt her fidelity? So she's late? A lot of working women will tend to be late, more times than not, probably? Especially in this economy?! Right?

    You need to relax, your paranoia is making you think this way! Communication is the way to go here, like always?! Ask her, maybe as you sit watching tv? Turn it off, and ask her to have an open, honest talk?! Then, you need to ask specific questions, don't beat around the bush! Then, you must listen to her! As she must listen to you! This is a partnership, and if you can't have frank conversations, your 50/50 partnership is going to start lisping to one side, then, it will eventually sink?!

    I think, in your case, you might benefit from a counselor? Either individually, or as a couple, preferably as a couple?! A counselor can help you see things differently, and guide you down a better path?!!!

    I hope some of this might help, if not, I hope there are more posters than I?!

    Good luck!

    nohard responded:
    Hi Well you wanted to look at vaginas, well here's some for you to look at, all shapes and sizes shave and O'natural.
    As for being late for dates, its a women's prerogative to turn up late.
    If you want this love affaire to continue, I would leave it at the, but lots of vaginas to look at, and at you leisure.
    Good Luck
    ben360 replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Hi Dennis, Thanks for taking the time to write your response. I see your point with it being paranoia and I do hope you are right.

    nohard replied to nohard's response:
    Hi, And O my god, forgot the link.
    Very sorry.
    ben360 replied to nohard's response:
    Hi, Thanks for this I however have viewed this one myself.
    I was wanting to understand how my partners vagina is suppose to look on a day to day basis without being intimate.
    Is it the lips closed or stay open, if open I guess my girlfriend is having intercourse with another man.
    ben360 replied to dfromspencer's response:
    Hi Dennis,
    I also first found out about this site whilst reading a thread from here which raised a similar issue to the one I am going through.
    The link is below.
    nohard replied to ben360's response:
    Hi Ben you first really need to understand not all women are the same, as you will see from all the photos, if anything a woman's vagina after sex would be slightly swollen, and if the guy had been wearing a condom you would smell that, if she's on BC and had unprotected sex, you would see her other partners sperm, or signs of it.

    If you have not noticed any of these, then your just seeing to much into it, now if your like that now, just what would you be like if married.

    I think for me you either forget what's going through your mind. or just walk away, sorry I cant think any other way for you to go and still have a clear mind.
    Good Luck
    ben360 replied to nohard's response:
    Hi. I understand however this is my point I see signs but there is vagina discharge. So I need to know what semen inside the vagina would look like or female discharge?
    stevesmw replied to ben360's response:
    A relationship is based on trust and you dodn't have any. Don't even considered getting married.
    I would only marry someone who is sexually experienced even if it is only with me and I'm ok with mutiple partners as long as I unconditionally trust my parnter.
    bigred53 replied to ben360's response:
    IMO Ben, you sound very young and relatively inexperienced. It you are having trust issues already maybe she is not the woman for you whether or not she has ever cheated.

    Women have discharges that are different at different times of their menstrual cycles.

    I have and have had many male friends through out my life and I do hug them and kiss them on the lips but that doesn't mean I am going to have sex with them. Men and women have friends. Deal with it.

    ben360 replied to stevesmw's response:
    I totally understand how you can say this. However I feel the girl is near enough perfect for me. I just am not sure as she a different nationality to myself. And with having different culture to how I grew up I feel she acts differently to myself when it comes to intimacy. I suspect in how she acts with me she is seeing other men on the side. From all the signs I suspect I feel for my health it may be best to break it off. I however am now wanting to marry this girl and I have already given a token ring. So I feel I am in a really awkward position. I do not no what properly to do. If there was someway to find out if she was genuine I would love to know how.
    ben360 replied to bigred53's response:
    There is an issue with her being close with other men in photos. I feel from this there may be more going on in the back round such as intimacy. I understand I have gotten a few various views now I however still feel so unsure. If you do happen to read my reply's to the other suggestions you will gain a better picture and may see it is pretty complicated.
    bigred53 replied to ben360's response:
    Ben, is she naked and having sex with these men she is close to in these photos? When her phone is turned off is she working? or in school? or studying? I do think that she should call you if she is going to be late when you have a date scheduled.

    IMO if you don't trust her now it is only going to get worse for you in your mind. Being with someone from a different culture can be difficult.

    Have you talked to her about your fears?

    Vulvas can look different at different times of the day and different days of the month. If she is very aroused by you her vulva is going to look different and feel different. The discharges will be different.

    IMO if I love someone I totally trust him, even with my life. He is my partner and we share everything. I could not be with someone who was doubtful of my integrety.

    ben360 replied to bigred53's response:
    Michelle, I understand how everyone is viewing this issue I am having. Practically everyones response has crossed my mind. If I can share some pornographic footage which features a vagina. This is good reference as this is similar to when I suspect my partner has been playing about with other guys.

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