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    ErectionDysfunction....Help...Advice
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    jackfrosted posted:
    I'm in my mid 30's, active, healthy, eat well and in a great relationship with a hot attractive girl for the past 10 months. I don't smoke, I exercise, I indulge in a few drinks per week, but nothing excessive.

    Past...... About a year ago I was dating this girl and I couldn't get hard once. That relationship ended because we weren't meant to be. Sex had nothing to do with it.

    Current..... Sex has been great until recently. She came on to me and no matter what she did I couldn't get hard. This has happened 4 times in a month. I don't get morning erections and even alone I can barely get a hard erection. I was rock hard and super sensitive my whole life. Sometimes too sensitive which would lead to PE, but when PE took place I could go for round two in 10 minutes. Haven't looked at porn in months. I don't want to master-bate (want to save it for her and I don't get super hard).

    She thinks it's her and this is putting a toll on our relationship.

    help!! What do I do?
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    stevesmw responded:
    Excluding health issues, it could be performance anxiety.
    you are too young to be having ed issues.


    Masturbation is good for increasing sexual response. When you masturbate you should concentrate on the feeling, don't even think about orgasming, take your time and try to think about getting hard. If you aren't getting the response you want, stop and try again when you are ready.
     
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    jackfrosted replied to stevesmw's response:
    3A4hanks, However I don't get more than 60% hard. I don't want to try and make my brain/body think that 60% is ok.
     
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    jackfrosted responded:
    Also, What health issues could it be?
     
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    stevesmw replied to jackfrosted's response:
    At your age anything less than 100% isn't right.
    Erections are mind/body. I'm not a doctor, so you need to see one if you have concerns. Fatigue and stress are possible causes.


    I'm also not a psychologist but I know that the mind has a strong effect on your erection. First time someone has an issue with an erection, fear of failure can keep you from getting a good erection.


    If you are reluctant to see a doctor, try to work on getting one solo and see if you get your confidence back.
     
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    Anon_475 replied to jackfrosted's response:
    My husband had problems at your age. He saw a urologist who diagnosed low testosterone and prescribed a gel for him. The results were almost immediate. 6 months of treatment was all it took. We have no idea what caused it but know what cured it!
     
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    jackfrosted replied to Anon_475's response:
    Thanks......

    So how long ago was this? No issues since?
     
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    Anon_475 replied to jackfrosted's response:
    It was about 15 years ago and all has been fine ever since.
     
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    jackfrosted replied to Anon_475's response:
    Do you know what the gel was? My testosterone is showing normal. I even looked at porn and it didn't get super hard.

    This is frustrating. I got a physical appointment now set up and in the meantime I got some cialis.
     
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    Anon_475 replied to jackfrosted's response:
    It was Androgel. How is your testosterone being tested? Is it a one-off? Blood test? I ask because, as your T levels will vary during the day, you need to be tested several times. Also, saliva testing is more reliable than blood testing.

    Good luck!
     
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    jackfrosted replied to Anon_475's response:
    They did a blood test a few weeks ago. I went for another one today.

    They gave me 20mg of cialis. That sounds potent from what I read online. Should I cut it?
     
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    Anon_475 replied to jackfrosted's response:
    I can't answer that one. Who is the "they" that you're referring to? Your family doctor or a urologist?
     
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    stevesmw replied to jackfrosted's response:
    You shouldn't need ed meds. They are treating the symptom, not the problem.
     
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    jackfrosted replied to Anon_475's response:
    Doctor ordered them. Urologist won't see me until after the physical.
     
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    jackfrosted replied to stevesmw's response:
    I haven't used them yet. I don't plan on it at this point. We might try and go a month with no sex I order to see where it goes while everything else is going on with doctors.


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