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Married women--or I suppose any woman that sees her partner real often--with high sex drives are also going to be very interested in this.

Women who have multiple orgasms with or without FE are also doing many of the same things you describe. I have been doing kegel exercises for several years and that's exactly how I first became multi orgasmic. Clamping down on my PC muscles brings about very intense orgasms and then when I release or push out with the same muscles, a flood of ejaculate is expelled. Mine is more of a gush of a lot of fluid rather than the "squirt" you hear so many talk about. I generally have several orgasms before I ejaculate and once I ejaculate, I'm worn out and can not go again. Only on rare occasion can I ejaculate a second time.

I have no reason to believe that men can't do the same thing because even though our genitalia is different, internally we are relatively the same if you think about it.

I think the key for you is whether you are going to be able to transfer what you do during masturbation to what you do during intercourse with your wife--especially since you have said before that she does have multiple orgasms and does have FEs as well. One of the things that I have noticed with my husband is that sometimes he orgasms after my orgasm has started. This is especially true if he feels the contraction of my muscles against the head of his penis. I have tried opening my legs further when I start to orgasm to cut down on the friction on his head but when I do that, the force of my orgasm if it's really intense will literally push his penis out and then I have a FE because it's harder to control with my legs really wide. It doesn't seem to faze him now and he goes right back in and then he can orgasm. At first though, it used to ruin his orgasm because he didn't know what to think.

I think masturbation is a lot different because you don't have to deal with what the other person is doing as far as their orgasm. I do think though that the stronger your erection is, the more you will be able to deal with what your wife is doing when she orgasms and then you can have multiple orgasms of your own. I could be wrong but that's my theory.

Donna

Mark. I lost my copy of Mantak Chia's book, Male Mulitiple Orgasm. Dont know who you are following but it is very possible. Along with what you are doing, are you trying to orbit or pull the sexual energy to your head and then back to your genitals. Lots of men that I see online have mastered this and make love for over an hour, they say, having many small orgasms but no ejaculation and then ejaculating when they choose in a major and final orgasm.

Riding the wave is a very real thing and I have experienced it in rudimentary form but not in full control. Those who have mastered this say that they enter a new world of pleasure that makes their former life of enter and shoot feel like kindergarten in comparison. Good luck to you man. Would like for you to post your findings so that us men can follow your successes and instructions.

Maybe we should both get a copy of that book.

I'm aware that there are several methods of male multi orgasm, but the technique is fairly simple once you strengthen your PC muscle, which takes a lot of work. I already feel that I have the timing down, although learning to control my breathing could be helpful.

My primary purpose though is to strengthen my erections. At 54, I'm having difficulty getting and maintaining them without viagra.

My impression so far is that if I'd been able to repress my ejaculation that my orgasm would have been short but quite intense, stronger than many I've had with ejaculation, but its really too soon to judge. Given my issues, I'll be anxious to see if I'm able to go for at least a second round.

What happens now is that I get an intense orgasm, but ejaculation starts, and my efforts to stop it only stifle the orgasm that comes as a result of the ejaculation itself.

That ejaculatory response is very powerful, so its no wonder that this isn't commonly done.

BTW, you said that you've known a number of people who've been successful, but my search online hasn't found anyone who speaks from actual experience, except perhaps yourself.

mark

Donna, it should be fairly easy for me to transfer this to intercourse if successful, especially if I'm doing the bulk of the thrusting as is the case in doggy or missionary. As long as I can control stimulation and stay focused it should work.

For now, I'm still a ways away from success.

mark

Did I say easy Donna? Maybe not. I had intercourse last night, and I had no idea when to clamp down because the level of sexual excitement starts out so much higher, and orgasm kind of sneaked up on me. Not so with masturbation, which is more predictable. You were right, it will take some work.

Still, its good work if you can get it.

mark

For women, it's rather natural to clamp down at the start of an orgasm and I think that's why most women don't have FEs with their orgasms. The orgasm always felt really good my muscles always felt like they were in knots afterwards. When I started pushing out at the beginning or near the beginning of the orgasm, I still got a very intense orgasm but with FE and my muscles weren't sore afterward if that makes any sense. I'm wondering if your muscles will be sore too if you hold back on ejaculation? I think you would be much better off if you just went for the stronger erection the first time and not worry about achieving multiple orgasms and round two quite yet. What does your wife think about all this? Is she always ready for round two?

I think one of the reasons orgasm is so much more predictible with masturbation is that you don't have the "surprise" element of stimulation from your partner. We kind of got a good laugh about it a couple of nights ago when we had intercourse. Even though I was on top in reverse cowgirl, he started thrusting in a different way than I expected and the orgasm snuck up on me so fast that instead I clamped down and held my breath (it really did take my breath away) and he ended up having his orgasm in about 2 seconds because I had a strong grip on the head of his penis at that point. It was a powerful orgasm but I kind of wished we could have continued on for longer! He claimed I squeezed it out of him I still can't believe he orgasmed so fast considering that he normally has delayed orgasm. You really couldn't help but laugh afterwards.

Donna

My boyfriend has been able to have multiple orgasms (usually 3-5 depending on intensity). He said it has only with me that he has been able to do this. Most are attained when I perform oral sex on him and don't stop after the first orgasm, but he is able to during intercourse as well.

He does ejaculate at least twice of the 3 to 5 times. I have found that since the sensitive part of his penis (soft underside just under the tip) does not get overly sensitive so he lets me continue, thus enabling the subsequent orgasms. I can tell by the amount of ejaculate released determines how many more will follow. First and last have the most. Usually the second has little to none released.

He had never heard of others able to attain this ability and was pleasantly surprised when it occurred the first time. Hence my internet search and finding your post.

I don't believe he does anything special with muscle control or clamping down. He is just not overly sensitive after the first and lets me continue.

Hope this helps. Good luck in this endeavor.

A.C.

I would think that multiple orgasms would be common among most men, but I am not sure. I have always been able to have multiples. When I was in my teens and 20s I was able to have 5 or more. Now that I am in my late 40s I still can have 2 whenever I feel like it, but I have to say that this is not out of any specific exercises, I just can. When I feel like I want to have more than one I would go ahead and have the first one right away and then continue with the second one, which would take a long time, 20 or more minutes. Sometimes my wife would be working on her first one and would be working on my second one, which works well for both of us because the whole activity would take 30 or more minutes.
For whatever is worth, I workout regularly and eat healthy. I have always been active. I also, make love to my wife almost every day and we have been married for almost 16 years and we have known each other for about 19.