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    anonimuss posted:
    I have a fetish that I have found out is called somnophilia, or the attraction to sexual activity with a sleeping person. I have told this to my girlfriend and she has no problem with it, or with allowing me to fulfill my fantasy with her, since she is very submissive. The only problem is, she's an extremely light sleeper. As in, she wakes up at the drop of a hat. For this reason, there's really no way for me to do it naturally.

    I have tried artificial methods such as OTC sleeping pills. However, these just make her drowsy, but don't affect her depth of sleep, ie. she still wakes up right away. So here's my problem. I am looking for either a method or a drug that will put her into a very deep sleep, or even leave her unconscious, such as you would be under the influence of a general anesthetic during surgery. I guess I would need a very powerful sedative/hypnotic. I have heard of drugs such as Rohypnol, but I know that these are illegal in the US, and I'm not trying to get into any trouble here.

    I figured I'd try posting this here, since a medical site would offer me the benefit of people who know about drugs and how safe they are, since I don't want to risk her safety or health. I considered asking a pharmacist, but I'm worried they'd think I'm looking for a "date rape drug" for illegal purposes and call the cops on me.

    Does anyone have any suggestions? To summarize, I'm looking for something that'll knock her out and will withstand a vigorous activity like sex.
    FCL responded:
    You might find fewer barriers if it were HER who asked the pharmacist for what you want. Just remember that being "under" as deep as you would be with a general anaesthetic can be very dangerous. It's not for nothing that they have a specialist (anaesthetist) doctor during operations. It may not be as simple as you think to satisfy your fantasy.




    Camille1967 responded:
    Since she seems to be very cooperative, would it work if she just pretended to be asleep? May be a lot safer than recurrent use of sleeping pills.

    Good luck!
    anonimuss responded:
    We've already tried pretending, it just isn't the same.

    And yeah, I definitely don't want to put her in harm's way.
    FCL responded:
    This is just a random sunday morning thought but ... have you considered hypnosis?
    anonimuss responded:
    I actually haven't. But doesn't that take someone skilled in it? And is it able to withstand something like sex?
    FCL responded:
    Isn't it worth finding out if you can learn how to? Consult a professional and find out how, if it's possible, and where you can learn ...
    Caddy84 responded:
    I kinda want to know why someone on here hasn't said this might not be the brightest plan.

    #1. It's a fantasy. Be content with that. Next thing ya'll know this guy will want to have sex while free falling from a plane. I guess we'll be recommending him to a parachute specialist. Come on people.

    #2. Don't drug your girlfriend...whether she's willing or not. That has "STUPID IDEA" stamped all over it. Do you ever wonder why those kinds of drugs ARE NOT sold over the counter? They have high risk factors associated with them that have to be carefully monitored by specialists.

    #3. Isn't it troubling to anyone but me that he wants to have sex with an unconscious person? Frankly, I don't care how passive his girlfriend is. Maybe a hypnotist is the wrong person to be talking with.
    4oSomething responded:
    OMG It's Caddy!!!

    I agree. don't drug your girlfriend!!

    If she is willing, can't she just pretend not to wake up and you can fullfill your fantasy without putting her in danger?
    Caddy84 responded:
    What's goin on?

    Have you gone soft on me 40? There is a lot of stupid advice floating around on here.
    4oSomething responded:
    Not much, just having a lazy Sunday. Hubby and son are off to the movies and I'm enjoying some peace and quiet lol.

    Are you back for good??? I missed ya.

    I'm not sure if it's so much that I've gone soft.... more like just fed up with wasting my breath.
    Caddy84 responded:
    Come on now 40...of course I'm not back for good. Just stopping by. I've missed chatting with you too. If you're gonna post...might as well throw some heat! If you'd like, we can chat in the chatroom and catch up for a bit?
    stajoc responded:
    I have to agree with Caddy84 on this one. That sounds like a bad idea. Some fetishes are better off left to fantasies and I kind of think this is a prime example. Drugging your girlfriend (even with her consent) is a terrible and dangerous idea.

    Not being judgmental, I just don't think it's safe.
    Cat78fish responded:
    I really didn't want to respond to this post because I was extremely repulsed by it. The fact that he wants to render his girlfriend unconscious suggest to me that he might take it too far and eventually be in prison for murder. I am thinking his girlfriend should run from him as fast as she could. He sounds dangerous to me and I would be afraid to go to sleep at night in his presence.

    AbstractLove19 responded:
    Took the words right out of me. My goodness - if the idea of date rape sounds hot to you - I think it is time you get seen by a doctor. And your girlfriend might as well too.

    It sounds violent in way - wanting to take advantage of someone when they cannot defend themselves. What if you were hurting her, she stopped breathing, etc.

    I am sorry - but this is really sick to me. Fetishes are okay - but this one seems to be more then a fantasy.

    That or someone is trying to pull one over us.

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