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We dutifully refrained from sex until after she had done two treatments with Monostat but I thought she had done three. She says she douched before we had sex at that time.
(A note here about my physical anatomy, if it?s relevant. I am larger than the average man, 2x8,and I have trained myself to last long enough to satisfy most women. I have had problems with tearing in the past, but only after marathon or repeated sex sessions. I also have genital herpes occasionally)
During this session, which was either the morning of Sunday, October 25, or Monday, October 26, 2009, I began to experience what felt like dryness on the dorsal side (side toward me) as we made love. After we finished I experienced burning in this same area. After withdrawing, I found that I had two quarter-inch tears on the shaft of my penis, on the dorsal side. Over the day and overnight, the skin on the shaft slowly swelled and turned red. I decided that I must have contracted my wife?s yeast infection, even though there was no itching and no pain. The best description of my penis at that time was that the head of it looked as if it sat in the center of a sirloin rose blossom. I began applying Miconazole cream. I also used triple antibiotic cream on the tears. But the problem only persisted or got worse over the next few days. I had some mild itching and stinging.
On Friday, October 29, I went to the emergency room at S. C. R. I was seen by Dr. D. B. She prescribed a single pill which I took there at the hospital. I was advised to see my family physician if the problem did not improve or if it got worse. The medication was diflucan 150 mg po.
Over the next few days, the swelling went down and it appeared that I was getting well, albeit slowly. I continued to apply the miconazole cream and hot water soaks. My wife and I made love again and it all started up again. After that sexual session, I found that I had about a half-inch tear on the dorsal side of my penis, but in a different location. The swelling has increased since Thursday (11/5/09) along with bumps, welts, or a rash. The itching was intense at times and my member was red and tender to the touch. I stopped the miconazole, thinking I might be having a reaction to it, and used triple anti-biotic cream, calamine lotion, and vinegar soak. Nothing was working. Considering zinc oxide cream today (Sunday, 11/8/09) but am apprehensive about putting anything on it.
I did go on and use the diaper rash medicine (zinc oxide) and this helped for a while. Used triple antibiotic cream, vinegar baths also, but did not notice a change. Itching has been intense and maddening at times. Nothing is working. Even using nothing seems to be better than any cream. I inspected my penis closely under a desk lamp on Thursday night, and the skin tore just from my gentle inspection. But now, the swelling is coming back, my skin is very dry, and seems to have sores and abrasions although there is nothing really like that visible. Did research on miconazole and zinc oxide, found miconazole to have side effects like what I had experienced.
I stopped using any medication at all and slowly got better, though a couple of locations still felt like they were abraded, though there was no visible sign except for redness. I still had some minor itching at the base and on the scrotum, and began treating that with Lamisil for jock itch. Researched Equate veresion of KY Jelly and found I might be sensitive to glycerin. Today (11/19/09), everything looked OK, there was no pain, my wife?s period was over, and we were both ready, having abstained for two weeks. Halfway through, I felt a burning, finished up quickly, and headed to the tub with a burning dick. We had not used any lubricant. I found four tears on the sides and top of my penis, from ?-1/2 inch long.
Any suggestions?
Donna
It is entirely possible you just got a few tears for whatever reason, possibly she was to dry, or you had sex for to long of a period, or you thrusted to hard/vigorously, etc. And these normally would have healed up. But you put creams and stuff on it which for a tender area such as your penis is usually a bad idea unless advised by your doctor.
Thats more then likely the reason it took so long to heal in the first place.
I have torn myself a few different times.
From my experience and what I know from school, even though a membrane like the penis looks healed, it isn't fully healed. I had to wait 4 weeks for mine to heal and even then take it VERY VERY slow and easy for about another 4 weeks after that. Or else it would rip open again.
You need to give your penis a long time to heal fully. If the wound is fully closed take it slow and easy during sex for about another 2-4 weeks, at least until the pain and soreness go away.
P.S. you used many medical terms. Are you in the field?
I am circumcised.
Used saliva for lubrication. I don't think that was a problem.
Only had sex for a few minutes, no more vigorous than usual, before the pain started.
I was concerned that this was a symptom of another problem. A side effect of the diflurcan was skin peeling off, but I had nothing that serious.
I am in my late 50's and she is in her late 40's and we still act like teenagers. In fourteen years, we have probably averaged once a day and have never had this problem before. I am usually actually in her from 10-20 minutes, so long sessions have not caused this before either.
Seriously, see a doc. You've tried everything you can think of so now it's time to go back to the professionals. Never forget that you only ever get one penis ...
The solution to our problems is a cream that can be purchased in any pharmacy called BAG BALM.
This has been traditionally used by farmers to apply to the udders of cows but by god it WORKED !!! I apply daily after my shower and I abstained from sex for 10 days since then I have never looked back despite how many times or how hard I go at it I do NOT TEAR ANYMORE. It has given me back my life. I have been tearing for about 18 months now after each love making even oral made me tear nothing I tried helped me but this HAS... I hope you try it too and then come back to let others know of this amazing aid to our lives...
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