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newchancetolive posted:
Dear Friends, My new hot lover has a penis that is larger and thicker than I have ever encountered. He is at least 8.5 inches in length and is so thick that I can't put my hand around it and have my fingers touch, so I am assuming that he is at least 2.5 inches THICKER than my previous BF. Since we are totally into fondling and oral, (no intercourse) how do I please him?? I felt so awkward when trying oral on him. Any advice on how to work him better with my mouth when he is so thick?? Also, he doesn't make much noise so I don't know if it feels good. My previous lovers were VERY vocal. I am used to hearing lots of moans and groans and I always knew I pleased them. Guess I have to practice and make my hands and mouth stronger. He will never fit inside my vagina or ass. He is waaaayyyy to thick for me to feel comfortable with that. Please help. How do I get better with my oral performance. All replies, advice and techique options will be appreciated. :sheepish:
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luvmy2babiesmuch responded:
my DH is very large too-- i think your hands will be the best option. I like to use AstroGlide and use both hands, and mouth at the head of his penis, and i also, like to get all greased up, on my body, his stomache, slid around all over him, use hands, mouth, and straddle him, rub greased up vagina all over his belly, ride him persay, while reaching back with my hands and strocking him, have butt really lubed, and my butt rubbing agaist his erection.. put penis between lubed thighs, teasing him, him feeling the vagina, but not going in.. etc.. also, my big DH likes to use a big vibrator to get me ready for him,, after he does oral, which he loves, hands on me, and some thick vibrator action, i'm ready for all of him. and love it! we love anal, but it does take work with such a healthy sized penis! and it's definetely not a weekly event,, it's a rare jewel.. good luck!
 
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Cat78fish responded:
Personally I don't know how Luvmy2babiesmuch deals with anal. My husband is not as long in length as your boyfriend but he is extremely thick and there's no way I'd let him get remotely close to my anus lol. I tried anal with my ex-husband who was not nearly as thick many many years ago and it was painful so I don't want to try it with anything thicker. That said, I can accomodate him vaginally without the use of additional lube. The key there is lots of foreplay (I get extremely wet so depending on what your body produces, you may want to use additional lube) and the ability to totally relax your muscles. As far as oral, I can only fit maybe an inch or an inch and a half of his penis in my mouth so what I do is put both hands (slicked up with my siliva or my lubrication) directly beneath my mouth on his penis and then move my hands in the same direction in rhythm with how I'm moving my mouth on him. This combination works well for us. This is a new relationship so I think the best thing you can do is take your time exploring each others bodies to discover what the other likes and I think you will find that many of these issues will go away as you become more comfortable with each other. Donna
 
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mhtyler2 responded:
What Donna describes should be a winner with almost any man. Most of the sensitivity is in the head, but the pressure and motion of the hands on the shaft is wonderful...frankly better than simply deepthroating, as psychologically and visually satisfying as that is. I like anal sex, but with a monster like that I wouldn't blame any woman for saying nay. However, if you can't make vaginal sex work, you may have trouble getting past that in the relationship. I'd use lots of lube and patience, and basically approach it with the same slowness that I'd ordinarily prescribe for anal sex. There's an old saying about vaginas, which while an exaggeration perhaps has a grain of truth: it will stretch a mile before it tears an inch. How good it will feel is another story...you might be walking like a cowgirl for awhile.
 
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5337guy responded:
You can do a lot of good with your tongue, licking up and down the shaft, and circling around the head. Use lots of saliva so it's literally dripping. I'm sure you can eventually get it in your vagina, since it is so elastic (think about the diameter of a baby's head). It would be best to ease it in, with you on top controlling the depth and speed of penetration. As far as getting him to be more vocal in his appreciation for what you are doing, you can set an example by being very vocal about how he is pleasing you.
 
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Cat78fish responded:
Mhtyler just reminded me of something. Intercourse in the cowgirl/reverse cowgirl position works really really well when the penis is bigger than average size girth for the reason that another poster mentioned in that you get to control the depth and angle of penetration. You also get to control when he penetrates and there's much less chance that it will hurt or be in any way uncomfortable to you! :smile: Donna
 
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wifeandmomof2 responded:
I think everyone has given GOOD suggestions, but , when giving oral, dont forget his balls ! ! ! They can be licked and sucked,(gently) while you use your hands on his penis. My hub keeps his shaved JUST for that! It is one of his,and mine, favorite things to do, and it really gets him off. you can also try rubbing his penis between your boobs, I'm not quite busty enough for that , but i see it alot in pornos, and when giving him oral, lay his penis on his stomach and run your lips AND tongue up and down, on the under side of his penis. and PLEASE,,, dont be afraid to ask him what feels good and what doesnt!! COMMUNICATE ! ! ! ! !!
 
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luvmy2babiesmuch responded:
UR SOOO right... I did forget about that.. my DH shaves his gonads as well, for the hope that i get those babies in my mouth! and I LOVE to catch my husband in an unaroused state, with a little penis,, you can really have fun when it's flacid,, altho it doesn't stay that way for long.. but it's fun to be washing dishes or cooking, and just turn around, and unzip his oants, and have a few gobbels at the small penis and balls... heheh --- he can barely sit through his meal!!!
 
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crazyfoot40 responded:
newchancetolive...I can certainly sympathize with your plight, but after reading your comments as well as luvmy2babies and Donna's, I am suddenly filled with gratitude for having an average size penis. This was not always true, but I can see that these big boys have their problems unless they find exactly the right woman. Tom
 
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crazyfoot40 responded:
OMG...luvmy2babies, If anything ever happens to your lucky husband, please call me. :pbpt: Tom
 
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Jumper197074857 responded:
luvmy2babies, My wife will do something similar. It's fun watching it grow in her mouth :sheepish:
 
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dancingg responded:
My new BF is very large too, 2.5 in thick and 6 in long. I don't feel anything when he is in or when he thrusts. It doesn't hurt either, I just feel stuffy but no sensation. Since he is extra thick, I can't tighten my kico muscle to reach orgasm. I use my finger to assist but it takes a lot of concentration and heavy petting to come. My private part wears out completely and it takes 3-4 days to recover. He enjoys both intercourse and oral sex. I enjoy his touching and huggings. I have not discuss this with him. I don't know how to. I think he has done what he can. I would like to improve myself to reach orgasm for me and for him. Help! p.s. I have always been able to reach an orgasm with my ex in the past.
 
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4oSomething responded:
my ex husband was 9 and a half inches, and I could not close my hand around it either. there is no reason you can't have actual sex after sufficient foreplay. If you are not willing to, then chances are he will soon move on to someone who is.
 
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newchancetolive responded:
Dear 'luvmybabies', You are soooo coool. Thank you for your tips and suggestions. This may even be a blessing in disquise because it will force both of us to be more creative. :sillygrin: Your reply was so generous. Thanks again.
 
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newchancetolive responded:
Donna, Thanks so much for the reply and the tips. :sheepish: So far, vaginal penetration is not an issue because he is chosing to not engage in intercourse, whew. So I am safe for now. However, I will keep the reverse cowgirl in mind for when/if the day comes. You are so awesome on this board. Thank you again.


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